ok ladies is this considered sexual hara

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Registered: 01-28-2004
ok ladies is this considered sexual hara
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Wed, 10-05-2005 - 9:27pm
ok i could fit the title..ok i have a question..ok there is a guy at my job who i have been pretty goods friends with for a yr..he flirts and all that,and we talked about hanging out sometime..both of us have goen through bad break ups over the yr so things are good ,being friends is best right now..but definitely an attraction with us.Anyway i was in crappy mood today,and pretty much ignored him walking by,and he knew i was in a mood because he knows when i get stressed out..so he was joking around and just LIGHTLY kicked me on my butt..now i have joked around and done the same with friends orwould pretend to do so,so i didnt see it as anything bad...and he did it to be a good...so i went up to him and sid whats up and he was joking around play fighting..so i todl him i am just not in agood mood today..then he gave me a hug and asked whats wrong..i guess we are little more than friends,but anyways would you consider this a bad thing that he did,or just being silly..i think maybe a bit out of line,esp at work,but he is a very nice guy,a joker type..am i stupid to like him?
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Fri, 10-07-2005 - 12:42am

sounds like he was just trying to get yor attention. Sexual harassment is anthing that could be related to sex that makes you feel uneasy. Sounds like it really didn't bother you, otherwise, you wouldn't like him. Are you stupid to like him? No, it sounds like flirting is a normal routine for the both of you and with flirting comes mutual like.

KCole

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Fri, 10-07-2005 - 8:26am
i didnt see it as a sexual thing just kidding around..as long as he dont take it to another level..if he slapped me on the butt that would be different,because guys who do that women for fun are not good guys to me..i just wanted to know what other women thought or would do if a guy did same to them..he is very nice to me,and i ahve joked around with freidns liek that a s well..but alot of guys you have to look out for
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 10-07-2005 - 11:05am

Inappropriate? Yes.

Sexual Harrassment? No.