ok seriously..............

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Registered: 11-22-2005
ok seriously..............
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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:41pm
I've been single for 5 months now and not one man has approached me. I'm attractive, a single mom, have a great job that pays me well, so what's the deal? Are men scared of women that have kids? I get so mad when I see unattractive, overweight women that have husbands, I think to myself if she can catch a man I can too (Sorry for being so judgmental). I was out of the dating scene for so long, did the rules change? Why are guys afraid to talk to an attractive woman? I'm a little shy so thats my first problem. Anyways I'm just looking for some advice. Thanks
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 03-11-2006 - 9:20am

Honestly, I think the answer is that men around your age don't want to date a woman with three kids.

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Registered: 02-05-2005
Sat, 03-11-2006 - 2:38pm

I am a single mom, I had no problems picking up men after i divorced. I think it is all in the way you carry yourself and dress. On days i dressed sloppy, no guy whistled, whoo hawwwed or talked to me. on days i dressed in decent clothing(nothing too slutty) i got the "whole 9 inches" offered to me(pun intended to make ya laugh). I also kept my cool in public when i had my children with me. If you are voiceterous and punish the kids in public...they(men)will run the other way. If you are polite and stern with the children in public without the spanking and the threats and bribes, They will flock to you like pigeons.I also made sure i was never wearing makeup. This way the men see the true self of the MOM and still appreciate her looks as well as personality. Sides, most of the time they are looking at your behind.

Everyone is different. This style may not work for you...improvise to your comfort zone.
Just be sure to not reject the catcalls of the men you pass by. ...keep that posture and march to your drum. The less you look humdrum and worn out, the less you look depressed, you are sure to attract men.

YES, it is not easy to get the attention of some men. But don't give up. AND remember, there is nothing wrong with you or your kids. Some men may just not want to deal with that type of "baggage" we moms have only cause they ain't ready for the instant family.
Keep on with your mom-strut and it will catch some lucky guys eye.
Good luck