One in Five

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Registered: 07-16-2001
One in Five
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Fri, 11-04-2011 - 9:57pm

I just saw one of those match commercials that boasts that one in five relationships begins online.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
In reply to: shywon
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 10:21pm

Hi;

I like those statistics.. I have actually asked people men and women how they were doing on dating sites and they werent doing that well either... These are people I see all the time like 24/7 on dating sites.

You know I never put much stock into OLD and I often forget why I did it..but of course I will tell everyone why I first did it in case no one remembers.

Back about two years ago after my divorce and rebound relationship someone told me that I should get out of my comfort zone and start dating. I was like no way... I am

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Registered: 10-16-2006
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 7:26am

I think it helps to just look at OLD as another avenue for meeting men. One should definitely not pin all their hopes on it, and should still have an active life otherwise. But I do think OLD can be a great thing for older women whose dating pool has shrunk to the kiddie pool. However, OLD can really start to wear on your soul, and for that reason, I am letting my subscription run out this month after four years. I have met some nice guys, I dated one for two months a couple of years ago, but that's it, except...

...not long after I cancelled my membership, a guy I had met three years ago (who I have run into numerous times over the years) called and asked me out. I was floored (and pleased). I couldn't go, but then two weeks later, he asked me again and we went out. It's waaay too soon to know if this will develop into anything, but if it does, I will be singing the praises of OLD. Ironically, even though I met this man through OLD, it turns out he knows many people I know, and goes to many of the events I go to. Why the hell didn't I meet him that way?

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 10:19am

How

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2006
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 11:02am

If you join three months at a time, it's $20 a month. To me, $20 a month is not a big deal--in fact, I probably spend more than that at Starbucks each month. But I look at it this way: if this modest investment could pay off big time, it's worth it. You could look at it as a brokerage fee--a small percentage to pay to "play" in the stock market.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 11:11am

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 11:19am

NOT funny, Marina!

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Registered: 02-26-2011
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 11:28am

Florida,

This brings up a very serious recurring question for me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 12:00pm

A friend of mine met this guy at her gym.. He is 60 and she is 53.. They went out a few times but no sparks . Anyway; He told her that he was on POF for years and didnt meet anyone.. but the guy has never been married and has no kids. So dont know if its him or the women?? Last week he told my friend that he had met a woman at a dance and they hooked up.. Lo and behold he then tells friend that he and the woman broke up.. Again?? is it him?

Another friend of mine went to a speed dating event last night. She said it was okay and as she was talking to some guys she found out that they have been on dating sites for years and have

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 12:01pm
I wouldn't say "dozens and dozens" of emails ever came my way, even when I was 25. I'd say maybe ten in the first couple of days and then nothing. That's my experience.

The men I met seemed fairly normal, for the most part. But then the ones I dated showed why they were single. Two of them could have done very well with women in another social setting. But the first one was just too quick to jump and couldn't focus on anyone for long, and the other was verbally abusive. You don't see those things for awhile.

The guys I never met I can't say anything about. However, the profiles made most of them seem incredibly shallow. It's the nature of the beast. When you are just looking at a picture (let's face it- most men don't read the profiles) its going to attract shallow people.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2007
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 12:07pm

I once heard someone say that OLD should work better than it does and I think that's true. And your less than stellar statistics tend to prove it.

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