One more question I am sorry

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Registered: 06-01-2005
One more question I am sorry
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 11:49am
Hi I am sorry to be posting this but I am not really sure what this means. I asked that guy that I really like how he felt about me. I said that I just wanted to know does he like me or am I just a "bed" buddy. And this is what he said "Well I do like you but I don't think I am ready to commit". I take that as a Maybe down the road kind of thing. The thing that gets me is we both have a profile on plentyoffish.com that is how we met. I know he has been getting on it a couple times a day. A couple nights ago he was on it for about 30 min and never sent me a message on yahoo chat. I finally sent him one and he told me that he had a really bad headache. Do u think he may be looking for someone else? Also I can go out on other dates too if we are not together right? Thank u for everything :)


Edited 11/16/2005 4:13 pm ET by downandoutmom
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 12:02pm

I would not take that as a "maybe", I'd take that as a no as far as a more serious r'ship goes. He can "like" you and still just want to be sex partners (btw, you need to edit your post to take out the masked profanity; otherwise your post could be deleted).

Yes, it does sound like he wants to keep his options open.

And yes, you can date other people unless and until the two of you have a clear agreement to be exclusive.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 12:31pm

I would also take that 'maybe' as a 'no'. If he is still looking than he's not that interested in settling down with you.

But you should definitely continue to date and not wait around for him.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:09pm
Yes, date others. You can't take it as a maybe because he didn't say maybe, he said no. Just move on and be glad he was honest with you.
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 3:53pm
He doesn't sound interested, I would date others.
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 5:45pm
I wan to tsay thank u to all who responded to my question. I am just really sad to hear that. I have been so very happy the last couple of weeks thinking that I have met someone special only to realize that he does not want ot be with me. I am gonna keep seeing him and see where things go and I guess I will just see other people too. part of me just wants to tell him that I am seeing other people to see his responce. well thanks again
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 5:55pm

I would keep seeing him ONLY if you are completely ok with accepting it's going to be a relationship that's primarily about sex and not going to turn into anything else. He wants to be with you, alright...just mostly to have sex.

My guess would be that if you tell him, he either won't care that you're seeing others or he'll get territorial and ask YOU not to see others but he will continue to keep his options open (and perhaps hide from you the fact that he's doing so).

Sheri