One night into a relationship?

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One night into a relationship?
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 11:29pm

a few months ago i slept with a friend i had started getting to know. he started calling me and asked me out to dinner in the next few days after. i didnt trust his intentions because i thought it was strange, stemming from a one night stand.

i guess i was wrong because he was around for a while.not too long, but more than "normal." i guess a couple without the title, but it eventually went away.

have any of you had a one night stand turn into a (serious)actual relationship? how did that go?

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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 2:10am

Would you believe that I forgot that my longest relationship to date began this way? I've been a member here for some time and these questions will come up periodically. I would always kind of skip over them or try to pull out some kind of advice. Dummy me.

Yes, I had a one night stand turn into a four year relationship. It started off like some kind of dream. The first two years were heaven. Unfortunately, the last two were hell.

You win some and you lose some I guess.

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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 3:05am
i slept with this one guy about a month ago and hell text/call me when he's in town to hang out, because he's not very local. i'd love for it to progress though, and that's reassuring to know you were in a relationship:) it's too bad it turned out the way it did for you,but i always like to think everything happens for a reason.
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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 3:13am
Oh, thanks. It was a long time ago. I feel the same way as yourself.
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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 5:38am

>>>i didnt trust his intentions because i thought it was strange, stemming from a one night stand.<<<

... ... ... ??? ... ... ...

What did you think his "intentions" where? To murder you and dump you in a trash bin or something?

I'm sorry, but I think it's extremely odd you would feel this way.




Edited 6/7/2007 5:39 am ET by redonculous
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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 8:50am

>have any of you had a one night stand turn into a (serious)actual relationship?<

Not me. All of my relationships stemmed from me holding out for a while to see if they really did like me rather than just trying to "get some."

I've HAD one night stands, but for the most part I was aware of what was going on. So when I didn't hear from them I wasn't upset over it. It was what it was.

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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 9:50am

Yep, what was supposed to be a ONS turned into a 5 and a half year relationship. We eventually broke up, but it lasted quite a while.

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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 12:12pm

Ironically, the longest relationship I've ever had (3-1/2 years) started that way. I will admit that I had known him for several years prior in college (he was my first crush) but he was respectful and treated me like his sister! (Ugh!) I was a bit naive and not as open (very sheltered childhood) thus, I was not his type during that time. Anyway after college graduation and several years later I ran into him at a college reunion party. It was great seeing him, we danced all night and ended back at his place and had sex. Wonderful! (smile) It could of ended there and I would have been okay (had no expectations) but it didn't. We dated, ended up living together but unfortunately after 3 years he wasn't ready for marriage. (Ugh!) To date, that was the hardest breakup I ever went through.

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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 2:25pm

It's not odd at all.

If I had a one night stand with a guy and he began calling a lot and initiating things, I'd be confused as to what his intentions are too. Is he calling because he actually wants something more than sex, as in a real date or is he calling cause he wants more sex. It's pretty hard to decipher what someone's intentions may be starting off that way.

I'm sure you didn't consider that at all.

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 4:35pm
i definitely did think about that! thanks:)


Edited 6/7/2007 4:37 pm ET by summer623
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Thu, 06-07-2007 - 4:38pm
i don't feel its odd. of course i didn't think he'd murder me. you could have that thought with anyone! not to mention he is 8 years older than me. of course, i'll question his intentions.

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