Online daters are social misfits
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Online daters are social misfits
| Mon, 10-29-2007 - 12:31am |
Almost every single person who has had to go online to find a date at some point has issues. I used to think this was the exception, but now I am becoming more and more convinced this is actually the rule. The vast majority of (normal) people are not online. If they were, a search on any popular dating site for a given metropolitan area for a given age range would turn up tens of thousands, maybe hundreds. Instead, only a couple of hundred at most show up. Normal people don't go online. They have for centuries, or at least for many decades preceding the internet age, been meeting, dating and marrying people within a circle of friends or acquaintances and been perfectly content with it. Those who did not, grew old, died alone and got eaten by their cats. But now all of a sudden another pool of potential dates opens up and these social misfits are as discontent as ever.
'Misfit' may be a slight exaggeration, but despite their outwardly appearance of normalcy, most aren't 'normal'.
Which begs the question - what is wrong with these people ?
Edited 10/29/2007 1:07 am ET by capegirardeau
'Misfit' may be a slight exaggeration, but despite their outwardly appearance of normalcy, most aren't 'normal'.
Which begs the question - what is wrong with these people ?
Edited 10/29/2007 1:07 am ET by capegirardeau

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LOL really I've seen tons of unattractive men AND women at bars and clubs especially at dance clubs which is why I don't frequent them.
Smile,
Deirdre
Do you think perhaps your newfound confidence in your appearance helped you to present yourself in a different way?
<<< I am not exaggerating: about 2 week later, I went out to a club and met my bf with whom I have now been for coming up to 4 years and living together for coming up to a year. >>>
Congratulations. However, the odds of finding a quality SO in a bar are pretty low.
'Do you think perhaps your newfound confidence in your appearance helped you to present yourself in a different way?'
Nope. I've always been very confident
I agree with you. I met my boyfriend the old fashioned way. He saw me a couple of times, liked the way I looked, introduced himself to me, the rest is history. We've been together now for 2 1/2 years and going strong. I think the internet can make people lazy and not want to get out there and meet people for whatever reason. Could be some kind of hangup that they may have on themselves, who knows.
I also agree with the poster, NewfoundSunshine about taking care of ones' self appearance, whether it be
'..This "accept me as I am" doesn't cut it for a lot of people when searching for mates'
Absolutely. IMHO, in majority of cases, this 'accept me as I am' is simply denial and lack of willpower or sometimes even
Edited 10/30/2007 4:04 pm ET by capegirardeau
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