ONLINE dating (myspace.com)

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Registered: 11-10-2005
ONLINE dating (myspace.com)
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Thu, 11-10-2005 - 2:08pm

i'm an attractive 23-year-old female living and working in nyc and yet i haven't met a single man worth dating!!

thus, i have turned to the internet (myspace.com) to meet men (note: i just pick and choose from the ones that contact me and i am never the one to initiate the idea of meeting). anyway, so far i have met two guys from the site and they both turned out to be really nice normal guys. everyone who i've talked to says there is nothing wrong with online dating, but i can't help but think the whole thing is pathetic and loser-ish.

what do you think about online dating?

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 2:40pm
When I first did online dating(match.com), I was embarassed for poeple to find out that I was one there and that I had to go that route to meet men. Shortly afterward, USA Today and Nightline did a special that talked about how online dating was and still is a very trendy way to meet people, especially for those who live in large cities. It went into depth about how people are more busy with their careers now, that it is very hard for people to meet outside of the internet. Maybe it is because I am older and wiser, but I really don't care anymore what people think and I have found that I am meeting better men. Probably because I have a better 'tude about it now. Even if I don't find the love of my life from match, I am really having fun. It's a great way to pick, choose, and meet people. As long as you're safe about it.
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Registered: 08-09-2004
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 2:42pm

I met my husband on match.com

If you were to meet a great guy doing online dating, would it really matter anyway? No it wouldn't. You could be missing out on something if you don't try. A lot of people get discouraged because they meet a lot of people and it doesn't work out. If you keep trying, eventually something will work.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 7:43pm

I did it for a very long time- off and on for over three years.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 9:29pm
Men are just more visual in general. As with any other time, they have to be attratced before they proceed, whether it be with email or at a bar. But I do find men actually read profiles in order to get an idea of someody's personality. Women are the same. I think the trick to online dating is to let them come to you. Whenever I email a guy, I am lucky to get a reponse. Yet I don't have a lack of guys that email me either. I think what it comes down to is, guys like to be the persuers. Even on the internet. There are TONS of jerks and perpetual daters out there. And this type of dating venue brings out all kinds because it's easy. I had one guy before tell me he just wanted to f**k me. Some want attention, some just want to date forever, and some do want relationships. It's a matter of weeding out the guys who are not for you and getting a great guy in the end. If you let it get to you, you won't have any fun, which is the biggest part of dating. Just having fun and hopefully something will come of it. I guess that is the attitude I try to bring to this. It's no different then meeting a guy on the street, it is just more elevated becaue you're putting yourself on a site to meet lots of men.