Opening lines...any suggestions?

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Opening lines...any suggestions?
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Wed, 07-19-2006 - 7:53pm
Okay, I'm the shy type and I'm always stupefied about how to start up a conversation with an absolute stranger. But there's this guy in my neighborhood who I see every now and then in the morning as I pass by his house on my way to work. He's usually in front of his yard walking his dog and and the couple of times I saw him there, he made intense eye contact with me. I'm more subtle in the way I flirt so I can't hold his gaze though I think he knows I'm attracted to him since I smiled his way last time. What do I say?! I'm very attracted to him and want to get the ball rolling. What's a good opening line for someone in your neighborhood that you pass by often?

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Wed, 07-19-2006 - 9:59pm
Say something about his dog, of course! If he's walking the dog, say "That's a cute dog", and take it from there. If he's not, ask, "Where's your dog today?" What could be easier? But, I would recommend that the VERY first word out of your mouth must only be "Hi" or "Hello", loud enough for him to hear and register. And it must be said with a smile. Only then must you say anything else. This is just some psychological observation I have come up with after making my numerous approaches to women. If it does not begin with either of those words, it never goes well.
Good luck!
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Thu, 07-20-2006 - 4:27am
I agree with using the dog as an icebreaker although I think any icebreaker will work well because most men like women who show any sort of interest in them ;) Remember there is no such thing as the perfect icebreaker, there really isn't. Think of the acronym "Kis" - Keep It Simple (or the alternative "Kiss"- Keep It Simple, Stupid"). Saying “Hello” is a good example of this philosophy.
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Registered: 09-28-2005
Thu, 07-20-2006 - 7:54am
You said you see him every morning walking his dog, right? How about good morning, nice day?
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Registered: 12-10-2003
Thu, 07-20-2006 - 7:10pm
You guys have great suggestions! I guess since I'm a woman, I don't often approach men so I'm kind of clueless about it. If it was someone I was not attracted too, I wouldn't have a problem. Anyways, I will try out the whole "where is your dog?" thing if he's without it. It's cute.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 11:16am
Whatever you do, don't ask him out. Let him ask you.
That's the advice I've been given all my life.
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Registered: 07-18-2006
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 12:29pm
What I don't get is if there's a slight possibility he's attracted to her why doesn't he go say something to her?
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 12:39pm
You make a valid point but it's an academic one. Somebody has got to do something to change the status quo. If I knew who he was I would tell him to go say something to her. I would start the conversation by asking him about his dog first.
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Registered: 07-15-2006
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 12:39pm
Maybe it's because she's on her way to work so he doesn't want to take up her time and make her late. Besides that she doesn't have a dog so maybe he's having trouble thinking of an ice breaker, too.
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Registered: 07-18-2006
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 1:18pm
Still a poor excuse. If he's attracted to her (and that's an if) he needs to do something about it.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 2:09pm

Agree that in any situation, there is a chance that a guy may not be attracted to a girl, or in a relationship, etc. But whether that is true can only be known after they talk, right?

The only question this girl has asked is "how to break the ice". ivegotsauce - do not overthink about what will happen next, at least get introduced.

As someone said, do not actually ask him out, let him ask you. But for that to happen, the ice should be broken, one way or the other.

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