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|Tue, 06-24-2014 - 10:30am|
I met a guy on an online dating site. We seemed to get on as we texted alot and also met up a few times. However I have found that ever since he got a new job I didn't hear from him as much. So I assumed it was to do with being busy with work. Even though I'm not interested in him as a possible partner, I did find we did get on and we do have a laugh but what bugs me is he can be quite disrespectful and critical towards me sometimes with passive aggressive put downs. This put me off being interested in him as this gave me negative vibes. The thing is he used to text me alot, almost everyday about random things and I have to admit I did enjoy the attention because I don't have many friends.
Earlier this month I got a text from him just asking how my day was. Now we both have flickr accounts and follow each other and I got an email saying he'd uploaded new photos. At the time I didn't have a proper look at all of his photostream as I had other things to do and the first 5 came up in the email as kind of landscape pics. It wasn't until mid june when I replied by text saying 'nice waterfall pics by the way'. His reply was, ' You'll notice there's a girl in those pics, I've been seeing her not long before we last met up, sorry I didn't tell you earlier.'
It looks like it's serious between them two as he took pics of her in a nice place and put them up on flickr. I know this sounds jealous of me but he obviously likes her more than me and he also texted 'I didn't want you to think I was jerking you around' To be honest I think he did. I felt upset about this maybe because I'm easily jealous as I don't really have many friends and I've been going through a bad patch, with struggling to find work and I guess it does sting a bit that I struggle to do things and he managed to find work and a girlfriend in a short period of time and I'm still single. Also, the way he went about telling me bugs me as it's like he put those photos up on flickr to tell me that, 'This is why you don't hear from me much.' Am I being unreasonable? I mean if you meet someone online, they are allowed to see other people. Maybe it's because I felt when we met up those few times, I didn't feel he liked me much and what baffles me is, what does this other girl see in him since he can have quite a prickly character?
Well, I am probably confused but overall, what do you think of the fact that he took pictures of her and put them up on flickr?? do you think it's quite a lousy, low way of doing things and is he trying to make me feel jealous or he just likes those photos and just wanted to show me?
Should I just get a grip and move on?? I really want to tell him how I feel but I won't meet up with him until next week sometime and the long wait has bothered me. Any advice? I don't want to fall out with him as he did say to me we're still good friends.