Oprah and Intention and singledom...

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Oprah and Intention and singledom...
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Thu, 12-15-2011 - 11:29am

Okay folks.

I was watching Oprah on Dr.Oz and she says she does nothing without "intention" ..So I am t hinking that in 2012 if we dont want to be single then I am assuming we have to create the intention of not wanting to be single and work from there.

This to me means putting out all of the stops to find someone whether it be multiple dating sites, singles events, speed dating, networking. hanging out where opposite sex goes , sports bars, etc.etc.etc...

This morning I asked a fellow friend on facebook if he knew any single normal men .. He is about my age so he might know single normal men.. So that was my first attempt at the intention.

Any thoughts???

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Mon, 12-19-2011 - 4:58pm

We all adore you - pretend that counts, just for the holidays!

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Mon, 12-19-2011 - 10:47am

I do believe it the laws of attraction to a certain degree but then there is reality.. I mean my

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Mon, 12-19-2011 - 10:20am

I'm all for thinking positively but if it worked all the time, I'd have a BF by now & be rich too.

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Mon, 12-19-2011 - 9:53am

I have to laugh about The Secret reference. It's true: the book (and others like it) instruct you to visualize, leave room in your closet for a man, make a vision board, etc. I think it's really pretty silly. Again, I'm not knocking intention (and releasing the outcome), but I think when we drill down to worrying about the space in our closet that it's gone too far.

It reminds me of a scene from a Woody Allen movie, I think it was Annie Hall. They were at a very hip, crowded LA house party, and there was a hilarious little throw-away in the scene. One of the male characters is on the phone, apparently speaking to his spirutal guru and says, "I forgot my mantra," as if he'd be lost without it. That's how I feel about The Secret.

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Sun, 12-18-2011 - 7:49pm

What I'm saying is that setting the goal, releasing your attachment to if/when/how/whom it comes from, and just going with life's flow IS the answer.

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Sun, 12-18-2011 - 12:57pm

I get what you are saying and do believe it to a certain degree but it sounds like if I just sit around and wait for Mr. Right he will appear or a job or whatever??

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Sun, 12-18-2011 - 12:42pm

Well, a close friend who was actually one of the "experts" on The Secret (not Mr Smith) and I were arguing this point a few months ago.

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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 12:23pm

Yep. that is what I was thinking that when we are ready for something it appears.. Its like when the student is ready the teacher appears.. That is what I meant by intention.

I went to a singles mingle at the library last night.. There was a woman there who said she put a positive affirmation on the fridge asking God to get her a job.. A few weeks later she got a call for a job.. Now she said that she was sending out resumes and taking tests.. So it wasnt like she wasnt doing the work..

I guess we can wish till the cows come home but not sure if that will get us a man, job or whatever. There has to be some effort put into it..

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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 12:15pm
I personally just want to be happy, period. If I'm happy in a relationship someday, so be it but that isn't my focus. I realize that some people have a very strong desire for a romantic relationship, and I totally get it. I suppose I am just not one of those people although, perhaps that will change at some point, as it has for you. If it ever does become a priority, I have this foolish idea that I will have all the same opportunities I had a few years ago. Boy, does it sound like I'm going to be in for a rude awakening, if the day ever comes...

Good luck :)
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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 11:28am

Somehow that doesn't seem to work that well for me, Marina--I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

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