OT: I'm stuck.......

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-27-2002
OT: I'm stuck.......
Tue, 09-24-2013 - 7:34pm


So this is a Part II to my earlier whining post :) Basically, I've taken a new job in another part of the city which is a *murderous* drive.......it's starting to kill me.......just the extra hour to hour and a half tacked onto my day.......I have been unemployed on and off and I feel that this job could work out, but.....

Basically, my new boss is a workaholic.  I do mean in terms of hours (she works long hours and brings work home) but also the workload is tremendous.  I can pretty much keep up with the various requests from sales (6 + individuals) and corporate collateral that must be created, but she also expects me to be her "admin" and handle parts of her role.  We talked today......I thought she wanted me to "help" with her projects, but it turns out that I must take ownership of some aspects as well (I came out and asked her what her expectations are).  Everything in her world has to be *perfect* and I find that she micromanages/tries to control me.......e.g. if there's a situation that I would handle one way, she tells me exactly what to do.........it's only been approximately 8 weeks, but they hired me for my previous sales and marketing experience.......

At home I am feeling a bit bothered by the "mr. ex" situation......his family is everywhere and often when I take my dog out I will run into them.  It's just not comfortable all round.....

I don't know if moving closer to the job will make me happier/have more time but something is missing.......part of me desperately wants to move closer to work (and out of this building) and part of me says "RED FLAGS!!" - with the new job........

Sorry.........just had to vent.......my dog is a good listener, but not too good with the feedback.......... :)


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 2:26pm

Well if you are unsure even about keeping the job, then it's probably not a good idea to move closer.  I really think you should try to stay there for a while--it's one thing if you were hired for temp positions and you had no choice but to leave, but employers really don't want to hire someone w/ a work history that shows they won't stay at a job for a while.  Do not quit unless you already have a position lined up.  Since your boss is telling you the exact way she wants certain things done, then hopefully if you keep doing it "her" way, she won't have to continually keep telling you.  Then you could approach her with an idea to do something differently.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-13-2006
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 2:13pm

Why don't you try to find a work from home job instead in that particular field or something close? NO JOB is worth you working yourself to death...those people who 'just suck it up' well they're 6 ft under in the ground now...not being able to enjoy a thing because they were worked to the bone!

Try looking for work online but until then...do the best you can..

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2003
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 11:53am

Mel hi there,

Don't go away.

Some people on village tend to offer options on things of which they have absolute zilch experience. I mean, I don't drive. Means, I won't be giving people on any boards any advise re: how to drive a car. 

I have lived and worked in a huge metropolis for 20+ years and I know ALL THERE IS to know about 'ghetto' jobs, taking anything, leaving 2 weeks later, being let go 2 weeks later, trying and trying and failing, abusive/workaholic/psycho/nightmare bosses etc etc etc etc.

I'll post more in a couple of days....

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-27-2002
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 9:01am

Thanks SHY, but I think that's a complete overgeneralization.  While I've seen friends sit at home and continue looking for jobs, I've taken jobs that other people wouldn't even consider.  MANY of the people who were laid off along with me have not even sought alternate employment.  And NO.......it was not due to the amount of work that I had complaints - it was because I was basically accepting work from GHETTO employers.  I have spent time working in call centres, canvassing malls to "educate" retailers about proper garbage disposal procedures, you name it.

Anyhow.........I'm tired of being sensitive to everyone's rants on this board.  Maybe time for a break for this poster.......

Good Luck!!


Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 8:21am
I'm gonna make this short and to the point bc I've lost posts this past week- I've *known* you for awhile now, so I feel comfortable being blunt. It's time to suck it up. Every job you've had over the past several years has had an issue you've found, usually related to what seems to be too much work. Most of us are killing ourselves working our butts off right now. It's just part of life. Do what your boss asks of you and then some. It's the only way to get ahead. Move if you want, but don't do anything to jeopardize your job.