OT: Needing a pep-talk.

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OT: Needing a pep-talk.
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Sun, 04-28-2013 - 12:05pm

I started that second course I mentioned a while back.  We have a different instructor.  I always looked forward the the other class and this one, I dread.  This person has something to prove, and to whom, I'm not sure.  She is extremely negative.  If I listed all of the inappropriateness, you guys would die.  Let's just say she is big on professionalism, but does not walk the walk.  I try to smile and think positively and some days are not as bad as others.  However, I'm sitting here today, thinking about tomorrow and it's as if this dark cloud has rolled in.  I do think part of it is, this course is twice as long, both the amount of class time and the length of the course itself.  I am hoping and praying that the other instructor takes over soon, as that was the initial plan(the two classes overlapped by a week).  If you have any similar experiences/tips to share please feel free but do send some positive vibes my way.  Absorbing the information is hard enough for me on it's own.  I need to figure out some kind of Jedi-mind-trick in order to get past this person's personality/teaching style so that I can actually learn something.  

Would it be rude, when she starts going off about some unrelated topic, to read the text book(ie try to tune her out)?  Trust me, I do not want to offend her.  I don't think anyone would want to see her bad side.

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Wed, 05-01-2013 - 6:48pm

This week has been bearable thus far, thank goodness.  Eh, I'm not sure how to answer your question.  It's more of an irritating thing than incompetence(with some unprofessionalism tossed in).  For instance, today she spent 3 hrs on 2.5 pages.  Our other teacher would have completed the chapter and given us notes on it in that time frame.  Others are starting to chirp about it when she isn't in the room.  Being that I took the other course, I have something to compare it to, while the new students are clueless(the whispers are coming from ppl who took the other course).  An incident took place today that nobody would believe . . . I'm okay with whatever as long as her wrath isn't directed toward me(which happened on the second day of class).  As each day passes, however, it's clear that something is askew.  I will definitely not be taking her interactions with me personally, ever again.  

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Registered: 02-27-2002
Tue, 04-30-2013 - 6:06pm

Hi,

Do you feel at all that this teacher is not competent? It sounds like you are handling it the right way, but I had a similar experience....

After university, I enroled in a one year college program (business related) tailored to university graduates.  For the most part, many of the students felt that the teaching was a joke.  At the time, I was still living with my mom and had to drive my jalopy an hour each way to attend classes (I was also working about 30 hours a week at minimum wage to keep the car on the road.....yes, cue the violins!!) lol.  Anyhow, in the second semester we had a teacher who was *completely* incompetent - and we had him two or three days out of four.  I would arrive for class and he would say "Well....because there are so few of you, I guess we don't have to have class today" or "Well....what do you guys want to learn today?".......you get the picture.  I had also paid for this year using my student loan (almost $5k).......so I was not pleased.

Anyhow, I did make an appointment and went to speak with the principal of the college.  I think he admired my tenacity, but just suggested I take another program the following year.  This teacher was also on tenure, so he would be teaching there (and putting other students in this situation) year after year.

I ended up having to get a full time job near the end of the semester, but I think there was some investigation into his teaching practices.

I'm not suggesting you should go this far (yes, I can be a big time crap-disturber!!).......but if she is mentioning negative things about prior students and is not effective in teaching, I would consider how much impact this has on you.  Post secondary education is not cheap nowadays and you should have an effective teacher......

Mel (aka the crap-disturber) lol...... :)

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Registered: 05-10-2005
Sun, 04-28-2013 - 6:22pm

Getting through classes like that is so hard!  I would absolutely read the book, etc. if she goes off on a tangent. If nothing else, it will ensure she remembers you as a serious student!  Hang in there-

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Sun, 04-28-2013 - 1:24pm

I know they exist.  I could confidently pick them out if forced, but I'm going to keep my thoughts to myself.  She has already mentioned gossip (former students) getting back to her.  She can make things difficult for us beyond the scope of the classroom so I'm not going to shoot myself in the foot.  Thanks for replying though.  You're right, just have to put on ma big girl panties and get through it, right along with everyone else ;)

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 04-28-2013 - 12:34pm

I'm guessing there's probably someone else in the class who feels exactly the same way you do.  Finding that person, then venting about it can help a lot!  I had a lot of so-so teachers in college (it seems they don't really need actual teacher training).  I just had to suck it up and get through it. 

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Sun, 04-28-2013 - 12:26pm

Thanks Free ;)  It's a tiny little school so switching isn't an option.  However, I think your advice to meditate and make sure I am exercising regularly is an excellent approach; one that I am very keen on putting into motion.  You're the best.

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Sun, 04-28-2013 - 12:19pm

So I am assuming you cant change the class and get another instructor? So same th ing as always go along to get along and do your work and hope you graduate.. Look at the big picture ahead of you.. When you deal with all of this crap and get your degree you will get a job you love and be okay..

As we know life is no cookie cutter situation.. Life is hard and we get thrown curve balls all the time. Time to stop living under a rock..(lol) and know t here are all kinds of nuts out there..

So here is what you can do? Meditate, pray, exercise and do all you can to ease the stress of it.. Go to the counseling office at the school and go to group meetings to vent..

Keep going and moving forward.. Its only temporary and you wont have to deal or live with this person ever again..

Dont you give up now. You hear me???

You can do this.. one day at a time.. Youn can do this thing.. No get going.....