OT.........Further Frustration!!!

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OT.........Further Frustration!!!
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Sun, 04-14-2013 - 9:16am

Hi,

Yes, it's me posting again!! lol.  I guess I've had some frustration lately and had to vent.......

I mentioned this contract position I have taken.......it was supposed to be marketing related (marketing admin support - answering queries and working on marketing documents) but I learned very quickly that it's actually a junior executive assistant position.  They used someone in marketing's mat leave to hire a person for six months, but in fact they are trying to justify a new admin role.  I have not specifically done all of the tasks that have been expected of me before, so I'm just learning as fast as I can and displaying enthusiasm.

I have also trained to cover reception.......it's been two weeks so far.  I've done everything that's been asked of me - one director made a comment "You're awesome!".  I have had little to no training, and I just basically ask others or try and figure out how to do whatever tasks are required.

I have one other admin who has been asking me questions incessantly about my role, salary, tasks, etc. (she asks me what I am doing and for who - it got to the point where I just didn't answer her questions).

My boss (a senior exec admin) is quite busy, so I suggested that we meet up once a week briefly to have a "status" meeting.  We met up on Friday and went through the various tasks (I had prepared a written document).  She said to me - "The one comment that I've gotten (from the main VP I am supporting) is that I am so much faster at things than you."

WTF?? After two weeks on contract? I don't think that that comment was meant for my ears and she totally repeated it.  She is also trying to create/justify a new role, so I keep getting comments from her - e.g. "They are working on the head count for next year" (e.g. meaning there may or may not be a permanent position created) and she asked me if I thought my role was a "full time job".

Blahhh!! As I say, I'm sorry that I just have to vent.  This is a large company so I didn't expect this.......I know I just have to suck it up and go back tomorrow with all my enthusiasm, but to people not know how to manage?? I'm thinking I should just work for myself, after all these experiences!!!

Boo hoo :(

Mel

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Sun, 04-14-2013 - 2:00pm

This is definitely kind of a sucky situation unfortunately, but I think you're handling it correctly.  

Not that it matters because it so doesn't but I'm confused (what's new?) . . . You said you met with your boss and she said that who is doing things faster?  Did she mean you?  I assume so, and that is a good thing, right?  I mean, I get that she shouldn't have repeated anything that the VP of Marketing told her, were he comparing you to another employee, but at least it was positive where you are concerned.  What I'd take away from that is, I wouldn't say anything to her that I didn't want repeated, LOL.  

I read a tip years ago as a tool to put Nosey Nancy's in their place and most of the time, it works.  Every time that co-worker of yours asks a question you are uncomfortable with, just turn to her, smile and say:  "Why do you ask?"  

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Sun, 04-14-2013 - 4:57pm

Hi,

Thanks for your response......no, unfortunately my boss was telling me that a VP (who I support) said that she was so much faster than me.......I don't know why she felt it necessary to pass that on, given that I am two weeks in........

I think I need to get laid!!! lol :)

Meli

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Sun, 04-14-2013 - 5:23pm

Mel

You probably wont like what I say but over the years I have learned to go along to just get along because then it is less stress on me. This is a learned practice and not easy to carry out but it can be done like I said with practice..

Like lets say for example last night I went to a meet up group for dinner and concert.. At the dinner I ordered pasta and a woman across from me ordered veal. She said to me if you practice good health how come you didnt get the whole wheat Pasta.. Now the old me would have went into a discussion or got mad or whatever with her and said why did you get a baby calf. That is disgusting but instead I just said to her oh; yeah that is right what was I thinking ? In turn she then kept quiet. So sometimes and most times to just save yourself grief and an ulcer and stress just try to somewhat agree.. Now I dont mean be a doormat but its better for everyone involved to just go along to get along.. just until you can find another job or be at your job a longer time and prove yourself. After that I am sure all will be fine.. Alot of jobs want people to prove themselves and after they do they are accepted and are left alone..

Now I am not saying this is easy but if you need work and have to pay your bills then find other ways to cope with this nonsense at your job. ... There are many people that push our buttons and we have to figure out how to diffuse it all...

 

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Sun, 04-14-2013 - 5:29pm

Hi,

You are *absolutely* right......I just have to take what people say in stride, whether I like it or not (it's a job).

I have been thinking that today......that and the fact that I obviously need to get laid!!! lol

Have a good one,

Mel :)

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Wed, 04-17-2013 - 10:10am
Free, this is good advice and it is something I need to practice. Currently at my work, there is this girl at my department who is always kissing up to our boss by bringing him foods... She comes in late and goes to long lunches with our boss. Even though I have more seniority than her, she bosses us around. I been trying to look for another job closer to home and hopefully better pay. This is one reason why I went back to school to get a professional designation. The favouritism really gets me on some days and some days I just go into bitch mode or just look the other way. Free, what you just said, go along or go along is so true. This what one older co-worker advise me to do. I just suck it up until a new job comes along.