Overqualified for love??

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Overqualified for love??
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 4:43pm

Since I've been thinking of applying to PhD programs, this sort of thing has piqued my interest...it's sad that many women feel becoming further educated might hinder their ability to meet men, while if a man has a PhD or MBA or MD or whatever, it automatically makes him more appealing.

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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 4:58pm

I have to say, that even though my education isn't quite what yours will be (I have a master's degree), I'm the one, not the guys, who has an issue with the difference in education levels. I'll only date guys who at least have college degrees, because I feel I have more in common with them and want to date my intellectual equal. I'm sure some people will think this makes me a snob, but that's just my preference.


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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 5:08pm

Ahh, what mine MIGHT be.

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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 6:29pm
I can speak for myself. I have an ENORMOUS ego that stands somewhere between the Empire State Building and low level stratocumulus clouds. Women smarter than I ( I, not me, but you know that ) do nothing to inflate that ego. A woman has to laugh at my jokes, marvel at my wit, wisdom and knowledge, swoon over my looks and say I am the most handsomest man she has every laid her eyes on, and just plain gaze at me with great longing in her eyes. Everything she says and does has to build and coddle my ego. I have to feel superior to her. 'Overqualified' women tend not to do that.


Edited 10/22/2007 9:08 pm ET by capegirardeau
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 7:29pm

I do think I'm at a disadvantage because I am not of average intelligence, but I think that it mostly has to do with the things I pick up on.

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 7:58am

Hey Cape,


But then having some bimbo swoon over you doesn't really build your ego, does it? It takes a smart and beautiful woman to truly make you feel the love.


If there was (somewhere on this planet) an intelligent woman who would laugh at your jokes, marvel at your wit, wisdom and knowledge, and swoon over your good looks...well then it might actually be true! ;)


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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 1:10pm

I think it's the "Dr." title that might bother people.

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 2:20pm
I don't think my education is hindering my ability to meet a man. I have dated a couple guys who acted slightly off about the fact that I have a more advanced degree than they have. That's not why the relationships ended though.
Honestly, I do want to be with someone who is equally educated, and I know there are men out there who feel the same. I don't easily consider dating a man without at least a BA degree, but I am not closed to the idea. My preference is someone with masters or more. If a guy has a BA degree only, then he also must have major hobbies and interests, something he knows a lot about and is even passionate about. If a guy does not have even a BA degree I *may* consider him, still, if he is ambitious, successful in a unique way, has strong passions and hobbies, overall, making a difference in this world. I look at the whole person, not just the education factor. But I still sway towards wanting someone who has an advanced degree. I haven't met a guy without at least a BA degree in a long long time, though. It's more rare these days, don't you think?
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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 3:52pm

>>Stupid people show up at every educational level. ((-:


Yes, I agree.

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 4:13pm

>>It's more rare these days, don't you think?


Ahh, not in Boston.

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 4:41pm
Isn't what I said the stereotypical view women have of men ?!

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