Overqualified for love??

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Overqualified for love??
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 4:43pm

Since I've been thinking of applying to PhD programs, this sort of thing has piqued my interest...it's sad that many women feel becoming further educated might hinder their ability to meet men, while if a man has a PhD or MBA or MD or whatever, it automatically makes him more appealing.

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 9:30pm
Well, I knew you were the first time with the bimbo comment, I didn't the second time...being facetious does not always translate well through computers. :)
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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 9:43pm

>>Like the saying goes a key to a man's heart is through his stomach, but the key to my heart is through my mind.

Well I can cook, too, so double trouble, haha. :)

It's a funny feeling for me....I'm usually the type not to let them see me sweat/cry/whatever. For some reason (relative anonymity, I'm sure), I tend to air my insecurities here. The thing is I like myself, I like myself a lot and I really don't want to change...so it frustrates me that I worry about what other people (namely guys) think about me.

We'll see about the PhD...art is something I love, but I'm in the fortunate and unfortunate position of having very varied interests, though most of them aren't particularly career-friendly (again, cooking, but cooking every night at such a rapid pace would drive me nuts...writing, wine, art, sports, etc.). Either teaching, auction houses, or arts publishing seem the most interesting to me.

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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 10:57pm

There is no such thing as being too smart for love! That special man will love all of you as you are! You don't

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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 9:39pm
I agree that men that are less educated have difficulty dating a woman that is more educated than he. I believe that the same holds for income. Men, most of them need to feel superior to their woman. Its a biological thing. Men are natural competitors. Men also want their egos stroked and the more educated a woman is the less likely she is to that. In my experience, men will seek to gain this superiority. I have known of serveral women in these types of unequal relationships that have resulted in the woman being abused by the man. Its a catch 22 for women. Fewer men are going to college, people are getting married latter in life, women cannot depend on men to take care of them so they must position themselves to be able to financially support themselves and possiblly children. Then, flip the coin and the very same behavior contributes to our singlehood. What's a girl to do?

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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 8:04am

I've been thinking about this thread for a couple of days now.

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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 11:43am

Right, if someone's arrogant and thinks they "deserve" more because of a title, I can understand why they'd have a hard time or be intimidating.

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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 3:32pm

I don't care about degrees.

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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 7:37pm

I have a Masters. I used to say I would date only guys who had college degrees, but since I went to a women's college, the male pool was R-E-A-L-L-Y shallow.


I've expanded my horizons, and Mr. Pooh is one of the most intelligent people I know. He only finished HS, as did many of our friends. But he reads a lot and stays current and has common sense. I've met college educated people who don't do that.

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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 9:18pm
I got dumped twice - the major reason was because I was going back to school to better my education.
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Sun, 10-28-2007 - 6:36pm

Who needs that kind of guy anyway? I'd like to think that most guys would want a woman who isn't a clinging barnacle, and I know that its never a good idea to be dependant on someone else for identity or support.


I'm currently pursuing my Master's as well, and while I'm a little older than some (29) I know I have to do this for myself,

~Heather~