Overqualified for love??

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Overqualified for love??
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 4:43pm

Since I've been thinking of applying to PhD programs, this sort of thing has piqued my interest...it's sad that many women feel becoming further educated might hinder their ability to meet men, while if a man has a PhD or MBA or MD or whatever, it automatically makes him more appealing.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:39am
Hi there! I found my soulmate!! lol..We met online meetrich dotcom.We mailed, chatted, and decided to meet for dinner. That worked really well, so we dated more, and things got more serious. Now nearly 3 months and a few city trips later, we can?t get trough the day without seeing each other or at least talking to each other. We are both very happy !!
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Registered: 10-29-2007
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:06pm

First, an incidental master's (sometimes termed a terminal master's) is when you complete all the requirements for a Ph.D. without the thesis or final project. It's called a terminal master's because it does not allow you to go on to a Ph.D. in fields where a master's is a pre-req. Not a good thing and not respected as a true master's degree.


So, I'm a newly un-single PhD in the sciences. The degree (and I think even more the job of prof in my case) really does turn guys off. But, the guys it bothers (those with huge egos and lots of insecurities) aren't the kind I would date anyway. I ended up with someone who makes half of what I do in a job he loves and it doesn't bother him a bit (though he occasionally likes to call me Dr. in the bedroom :) lol). So, I wouldn't let your future relationship options make career decisions. I'm so glad I didn't or I would never have met Mr. Right so I could be Mrs. Dr.

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Registered: 05-14-2005
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:26pm

I'm currently pursuing my Ph.D. in Medical Sciences. Typically, if a guy seems to balk at my academic pursuits when he asks what I'm doing, that's a good indicator he has self esteem issues. I dated a guy for three years who stopped his education after high school, and it wasn't that discrepancy which eventually tore us apart.

Now, when they find out that I'm pursuing my Ph.D. AND have a martial arts black belt, yes, they do tend to back off.... oh well. :)

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 12:15am
I think a big part of this...all of my worrying...is that I'm honestly just not ready and I don't want to admit that to myself. I can commit to a Masters degree, but just not to a PhD, not now, not yet, not at this stage of my life. I've just come to that realization tonight, which sucks because I hate going back on something I said I'd do, but...I just can't. Fortunately I have enough time to re-route the plans to a Masters degree, though not many schools offer a Masters in art history. And they're usually under-funded. Ugh. :-/

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