Part 2 - What is up with men????!!!!!!

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Registered: 07-11-2001
Part 2 - What is up with men????!!!!!!
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Sat, 03-22-2014 - 9:58pm

Hi all

So I am working on a Saturday night,  I work doing childcare while I am at college. Guess what? I just got a text from late night, weekend texter!

"How's ur Saturday night?"

Seriously. I am not asked on a date, but I am getting another text asking me how my night is! I obviously have not responded. What do you respond - "Working".

What is his issue? That is something of a rhetorical question.

Beach

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 03-23-2014 - 10:37am

I'm changing my opinion--before I was going to give him the benefit of the doubt but now I'd say he's a guy who doesn't want to put any effort or thought into meeting you and probably just wants a hookup.  Instead of saying that you were working, I'd just say "busy."  Oh last night I was looking on OLD cause I was bored (very rare not to be out on a Sat. night).  I didn't stay on there very long but later on I got a message that said "what are you doing tonight?  Do you want to meet up?"  Oh yeah, I'll just go meet up with a guy I've never even talked to.  For fun, I looked at his profile and it didn't say his job or anything (probably unemployed) and said something like "we'll pool our money to go out" and "If you're looking for a guy to wine & dine you, that's not me."  I'm sure that makes a great first impression on women.

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Sun, 03-23-2014 - 1:18pm
I deep-sixed a couple of guys that persisted in this annoying behavior the last time I did OLD. I find it disrespectful and lazy. Am I against all texting? No, it serves a purpose in quick communication when you do not have time to pick up the phone. However, one would hope that in the early stages, a guy would make more of an effort to impress you if he is truly interested. I just find this stuff very disheartening. It's not like we are all a bunch of teenagers. I think middle aged people are embracing the hook-up culture just like kids are.
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Sun, 03-23-2014 - 2:45pm

Thanks for the responses.

I did not even answer his text last night and have no desire to do so. I deleted it.

I can get all the "a**" I want if that is all that I was interested in, and from much better looking and younger men. If he is deluded in thinking I am some poor, female soul needing sexual attention from a man then he is truly mistaken. I believe that all of us ladies on this board could find that, but that is not really what we are willing to settle for at all.

I decided to try and date my own age group to find something a little more substantial, and found them tobe just the same.

The one MusicLover described is "awesome". Not wined and dined, pull money together for a date. I would be ashamed to be a man and write that. Just as I would be ashamed to be a woman who dated men just for a free meal also.

Beach

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Registered: 07-11-2001
Sun, 03-23-2014 - 2:49pm
We did go on one date, but this has been the behavior since then. I met him for lunch, did not have a drink, did not make out with him ...so what gave him the impression that this was what I was looking for...makes me so dislike dating!! Beach
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 03-23-2014 - 3:36pm
"pool our money and go out" Sounds like you missed out on a good one music. Maybe McDonalds for dinner and a nice free walk in the park afterwards. Can't help but laugh at that one. Think he needs to look in the "women desperate for a man section "of the website' lol
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 03-23-2014 - 4:54pm

There are websites devoted to people who just want to hook up for sex, although I do wonder if any women who aren't hookers use them, so maybe these guys should just look there.  At least in the olden days, men would at least go through the motions and buy you dinner before asking you back to his place.  lol  Now it's just like people expect unattached sex with no effort at all.