Peer pressure!

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Peer pressure!
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Fri, 03-08-2013 - 9:42pm

There are several women in my building who have decided we should all go speed dating "just for fun". One of them told me she already signed me up (jokingly). I do NOT want to go speed dating!  I'm not comfortable making small talk with strangers. The truth is, I see it as a way to get rejected by a lot of people in a short period of time. Like online dating on steroids.  And I just really don't want to go. But that doesn't seem to be a good enough reason!  I'm not lacking in the male attention department right now, so it's not like I feel like I need to meet a huge amount of guys, most of which will probably be too old. 

I don't want to cave to peer pressure!  I'd much rather just go out somewhere and serve as a wing woman! 

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Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 03-09-2013 - 9:10pm
That's pretty much what I've said- that I have no interest in going. I just repeat myself over and over and over. I have to say, if they did happen to convince me in a moment of weakness (not likely- I'm pretty stubborn) I'd probably treat it just like you said- a job interview. I'd also probably go a little overboard, just to see what kind of responses I'd get from guys I have no interest in. I mean, what guy wouldn't love a woman who asks how many kids he wants in the first thirty seconds? I have an ornery streak that comes out on occasion!
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 03-10-2013 - 12:11pm

I think you should pick out the most annoying "character" you can, for instance:  whiny, clingy girl, type A alpha b*tch, crazy nympho, unsubtle gold digger, or octo mom with a brood of kids, and go as one of them.  Ha!  Then report back to us immediately.  You could even play a different role for each guy who rotates through.  

Seriously, I would take the unapologetic "No" approach which Music suggested.  

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 03-11-2013 - 12:53am

 A man who knows what he wants.  That is who he is and the courage to go for it.  And he will probably succeed.

dragowoman

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Registered: 02-27-2002
Tue, 03-12-2013 - 6:04pm

Hi,

I did the speed dating once and it was awful.  I think a lot of it had to do with being in Toronto and men expecting "career godesses"! (the expectations here are pretty high!)

It's kind of like OLD - people think it's the perfect "fix" for single people.

I wouldn't go......but don't alienate your friends - just say it's not for you and offer to meet up for drinks later (and you can hear all the bad stories about the men they met, without being subject to it!!) lol

Mel

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