Peer pressure!

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Peer pressure!
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Fri, 03-08-2013 - 9:42pm

There are several women in my building who have decided we should all go speed dating "just for fun". One of them told me she already signed me up (jokingly). I do NOT want to go speed dating!  I'm not comfortable making small talk with strangers. The truth is, I see it as a way to get rejected by a lot of people in a short period of time. Like online dating on steroids.  And I just really don't want to go. But that doesn't seem to be a good enough reason!  I'm not lacking in the male attention department right now, so it's not like I feel like I need to meet a huge amount of guys, most of which will probably be too old. 

I don't want to cave to peer pressure!  I'd much rather just go out somewhere and serve as a wing woman! 

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Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 03-09-2013 - 1:16pm
That's exactly how I see it, Music. It's all about how you look and not really who you are. I'm not good at talking about myself, either. I really don't get the appeal of it. You're right- just saying no should be okay. I don't get why so many people don't accept that, though. I honestly thought the whole concept had died out. I guess not.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2012
Sat, 03-09-2013 - 12:21pm

just don't show up.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 03-09-2013 - 10:56am

I think at your age, you should be able to say no to something w/o feeling peer pressure.  I would hate speed dating also--talk about an occasion when people are only going to make an instant impression, i.e., it's all about whether the guy thinks you are cute or not.  I'd just say "No, thanks, but it's not something that I want to do" and no matter what they say, you just keep repeating it.  You can add, I'd like to go out with you ladies another night for dinner, drinks, whatever else you like to do.  

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2011
Sat, 03-09-2013 - 10:49am
Is this one of those posts that someone goes on with writing about how how they don't want to do something but really want to, or want the debate? If so, can't help you there. If not, then it is very reasonable to tell them you have enough attention from guys right now and don't need anymore, but thanks for the offer to include you.

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