Personality- YES! Looks- Uhhh???
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| Tue, 10-16-2007 - 3:27pm |
Question for everyone: Have you ever met someone that in the departments of personality, intellect, drive, goals and emotional availability was everything you were looking for but in the physical appearance dept. was just so-so? Or you weren't exactly turned on by them physically but not exactly repulsed?
Yep, you guessed it, that is where I am. This guy I've been seeing for all of 2 weeks is everything I've been looking for and seems crazy about me but I'm not sure if I'm really physically attracted to him. He's kinda cute at time, but others, I'm unsure. But I am, however attracted to the kind of warm-hearted, giving person he is and willing to give this a good try. It's just that he's picking up on it a bit and getting concerned. I explained why I was attracted to him and that I just need more time to warm up to him physically but I'm not sure how much time I'll need or that he'll give. He's a bit gung-ho and has really put all his eggs in my basket. But I think he's worth trying

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Yea!
This is only from my own experience and in my humble opinion: when you cannot 'get into' kissing and making out with someone, it is simple - you haven't got a trace of physical attraction to the man in question and any attempts to force yourself to fancy him will fail
Not sure exactly which comments were for me but to clarify, the physical and sexual attraction came very quickly. When I just let down my guard, focused on what I was attracted to ( his loving nature, warm heart, beautiful eyes and how wonderful and desirable he made me feel) we then kissed and I finally saw and felt fireworks. And it doesn't hurt that I found some other very attractive physical features of his!
And its funny how the perception can change once the attraction comes. I don't find him "round" at all anymore. Sure, he's bigger than most guys I've dated, but I find him cuter and cuter every time I see him. He's got gorgeous eyes and long lashes, sexy lips, pretty skin, an adorable nose and smells so good when he holds me tight. He eats right and works out daily to maintain his build and keep his weight down (which has fluctuated through the years) but in all honesty, personality-wise, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, he is everything I've been looking for and more I never knew I wanted so any physical flaws are getting smaller and smaller in my eyes.
I'm just glad I kept an open mind and just allowed things to flow. I might have missed out on something very special.
I'm just glad I kept an open mind and just allowed things to flow. I might have missed out on something very special.
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Not enough people "look" at the people they meet. I guess I missed something I read along the way. I thought you were back peddling a lot. (-: My bad. Good luck . .. never hurts to spend time with a good person, does it? I hope things work out well for you.
I have been in your situation before, and I can tell you that I will never make the same mistake again. NEVER!
I know what you mean.
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