Phone call question

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Registered: 02-16-2006
Phone call question
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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 2:33pm

Hello all. I need a little female advice (I'm a guy), and I figured this might be a good place to ask. I was set up by a friend on a blind date (bullied into it really), and to my pleasant surprise, it went rather well. We hit it off, I stayed over at her insistence(on the couch) and parted with nothing more than a friendly hug the next morning. The friend who set us up works with her and told me that she was "giddy" at work that morning and said she had a great time (and thanked him for the setup). She had a friend coming into town that day (Thurs) for the weekend, so I waited till the end of the weekend to call her. I got her voice mail and left a message.

I should note that both her and my friend are doctors (residents) and work crazy hours. I d/n hear back from her till the following Thurs, when i was in a seminar that went through the weekend. During the days in between, I couldn't get a hold of my friend b/c he was so busy at the hospital (so I guess she was too). I called her that Saturday (the seminar took up all my time Thurs and Fri), and she was in another state on vacation (she had told me previously she was leaving for two weeks but I was not sure when). She said she would call me when she got back into town. She was supposed to get back this past weeknd. I haven't heard from her. Should I try to call her now, or just let it go (it's been almost a month since we've seen each other). Any help would be greatly appreciated...

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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 2:41pm
It doesn't sound like she is trying to get rid of you, so just give her a pleasant surpirise and call her.
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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 2:43pm
call her

 

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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 2:52pm
I think you should call her. Residents keep an insane schedule and if she's just coming back from two weeks off, I'd bet she's just swamped.
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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 3:12pm
Wow, that was quick! Thanks for the prompt replies. One thing I should elaborate on (I know, I'm analyzing this way too much, but a lot of it's just curiosity about how this whole dating thing works, I've been out of "the game" for a while). The only time we actually spoke since the date was the saturday call when she was on vacation (she got my voice mail when she called me the previous thursday). The sat conversation was a little awkward and short. She was actually visiting her parents (she's from out of state). Her dad ansered her cell phone when i called (I know it was her dad, b/c right before she hung up, she yelled "DAD!!" in apparent anger). It seemed like she was trying to get me off the phone, but she may have just been embarassed about her dad answering (all she said was, "sorry about that, that was my dad, I'm at my parents house, blah blah vacation blah, do you want me to call you when i get back?" I said yes, and that was the last i heard from her). I guess the bottom line is, i might as well try calling her again - what do I have to lose? But, for my own curiosity, do you think she would call me if i didn't?
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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 4:16pm

Not to be old fashioned, but you're the guy. Call her! We women have been told that men like the chase, so she might be feeling like you will do the calling (at least at first) if you're interested. If you don't call, she might take it as you are "just not that into her."

You really have nothing to lose - I mean, the girl was "giddy." Believe me, we women don't get giddy over just any old guy. You made an impression. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Thu, 02-16-2006 - 7:25pm

I'm going to echo what everyone else is saying CALL HER!!!

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Sun, 02-19-2006 - 12:59pm
Well, called a couple days ago and got her voicemail. Left a message something to the effect of: Know you've been busy, had a great time when we went out, would love to see you again, if you want to hang out again, give me a call, etc. No reply. I do feel better having given it one more shot, though. Maybe some people are just flaky. Oh well, I appreciate all your advice, and I'll definitely be back as I continue to wander through the dating jungle. And who knows, maybe I can help y'all by giving a "male perspective," not that we're all that complicated....
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Registered: 08-13-2005
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 10:46pm
Yup, call her now. No harm can come in that. Take the risk :)