Phone call vs. IM
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| Tue, 08-08-2006 - 8:19am |
So I posted the other night about the boy I'm having issues with...I think it's safe to say that we are no longer dating because well, when I date someone, I like to see them, or at least hear from them on a regular basis and the last time I saw him (in a social setting) was about 2 weeks ago when we had sex for the first (and possibly only) time.
After my really rough day on Sunday, I thought about e-mailing him or calling him and confronting him on his behavior, but then decided "no, I'm not even going to go there....I'm going to be the bigger person". So I decided to call him yesterday, and I got his voicemail. I kept it short and sweet and just said "hey it's Rebecca, just calling to say hi and see how you're doing, give me a call back" and I even recited my phone number for good measure, ha.
Well, he popped online last night at about 10pm and IMd me right away, and we only chatted for about 5 minutes, he was up north this weekend, said "it's been a long couple of days" and he's going to the ball game tonight, and asked how I was doing, then says "well I think it's time I got some sleep" so I just told him to have fun with that and he said "for sure! talk to you later!" and I just said bye.
Apparently sending a quick IM (for him at least) takes the place of returning a phone call. Well, not in my book. It's obvious that this guy has too much on his plate right now and doesn't want to make dating a priority, so if he feels like contacting me and wants to see me, he can make an effort and actually pick up the phone. This is the part of technology I hate, we all have too many options, phone, e-mail, IM, text, when it used to just be if a guy wanted to talk to you, he would CALL YOU.
Arg.



That frustrates me too.
>>This is the part of technology I hate, we all have too many options, phone, e-mail, IM, text, when it used to just be if a guy wanted to talk to you, he would CALL YOU.<<
I agree. Technology makes it way too easy to hide from emotions and difficult situations. It's very frustrating.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
That IMing things works more for people like me: the social misfits. I get nervous and irritated over talking on the phone. Most of my phonecalls are short and curt. I generall don't like either, though. I prefer replying in emails or forums to live chat, any day!
I admit though, there is one thing I hate about this new technology. It's making loneliness all too common. Even I, one who was always a misfit even as a toddler, had friends before the days of the Internet. Now I'm sinking into the new way of interaction...a poor substitute, indeed. But yet I need this "substitute" because I don't have any outside obligations. No job. No church. No club. Without this poor excuse for socializing, I'd be a recluse!
But it really sounds like this guy may not be THAT into you. Too many priorities, I think. And you're not one of them. Just a perk. If I were you, I'd just firmly yet politely break of the friendship...er...really, added baggage. But I wouldn't take just my word. OBVIOUSLY, I'm not all that great with relationships, to begin with.