Phone numbers, false hope, etc

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Registered: 02-21-2006
Phone numbers, false hope, etc
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Sat, 12-09-2006 - 1:41pm
ok, my question to any that want to answer is... When a guy asks for your number, and hes not really your type, if you know you dont have intent to take things further should you give him false hope by texting him or even giving him your number in the first place??? I find, with me, sometimes i will give someone my number quite readily when they are really not my type(sometimes out of politeness), yet sometimes, when its someone im more attracted to, or better suited to, i will hesitate! Dont ask me why! Theres even been times when men im quite attracted to have asked and ive said i have a boyfriend when i dont, what is going on with that?! maybe its because i always think i can do better, or it was to easy, i dont know. Does anyone else do this?! Anyway, my main question is that above because recently i find myself in the same situation, feeling bad for not texting back or answering calls because i dont want to give the wrong impression, but then i guess i already have by giving my number in the first place, right? Any views welcome.....
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 4:44pm

It all depends on my mood at the time that I'm asked for it ; ) Sometimes I'll give my number out freely and other times, I'll give them a fake number so they'll leave me alone.

If you're absolutely sure that you aren't interested why would you text them or call them back? Boredom? Are you interested in being friends? I'm a little confused. Also, why would you not give your number to a guy who you find attractive? Fear that he wouldn't call? Again, confused.

I say, if you're interested, give them your number. What could it hurt? If you aren't interested go with the 'ole, "Sorry, I'm not available" as in, not available to you ; )

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 5:44pm
If it is someone I'm not interested in, I will NOT give out my number, I can't deal with letting them down later. If I am interested, there isn't any hesitation for me.