Phone sex?
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| Sun, 03-26-2006 - 8:19pm |
I'm seeing red flags here, but just wanted to have second opinions.
I met this guy on a dating website, he's much younger than me, although if I have to give him his due, he does seem older and more on my age level.
We've been talking for about 4 days, on the phone a couple times, and have really gotten comfortable with each other quickly. Possibly TOO quickly, as the rest of the story suggests.
Our IM's and e-mails were fairly flirty fairly quick, which was fun, then our phone conversation got kind of flirty, and quickly progressed into some dirty talk. When he called me tonight, we got into full fledged phone sex, which I've never done in my life. It was kind of fun, and I admit that I'm anxious to meet in person to see if the spark we have carries over.
but I'm thinking that, even though he's the one pursuing me with the e-mails and phone calls and being really attentive, that there's something a bit off about a guy wanting to have such intimate conversations with someone he's never met. (Maybe b/c I'm a bit weirded out over it, so I assume he should be, too?)
The thing is, I want to meet him and see if we have the spark enough to date, and I'm thinking that he just wants to see if we have the spark enough to f***. KWIM?
But he has yet to initiate a meeting between us...so why would he be interested in phone sex, but not pushing to meet me to fullfill the real thing?

The one time I had a similar experience (back when I was new to the internet), when I wouldn't "participate" the guy blocked me and through a little investigation I found that he had a girlfriend.
There is a reason he'd rather have sex from a distance, and it's probably not a good one.
Trust your gut. Those red flags are there for a reason, don't ignore them.
And besides, is that how you really envisioned meeting a good man- being apprehensive and afraid that he's "a bit off" or even worse?
One thing I've learned since having the Internet is there is a whole population of men who are very into phone sex.