PHONE TAPPING or BLACKMAILING ???

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Registered: 03-29-2005
PHONE TAPPING or BLACKMAILING ???
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Sat, 11-12-2005 - 12:33pm
Ok ... i'm very pissed off, shocked, and scared to use my cell phone anymore... here i go... last night i was supposed to meet up with the guy i have been seeing for 2 weeks now... well maybe 3... but before that, this other guy calls me that i have known him for 3 years cuz we are both in the military and he was in town, so i just wanted to see what he was up to and hang out with him for an hour then go see the guy that i was seeing for 3 weeks. my military friend, left me a voicemail saying that he wanted to see me in front of this one doughnut shop. the guy im seeing for 3 weeks, called me after 30 minutes sounding all innocent and stuff, says lets meet up, cuz originally we were supposed to go out eat, then movies then beach. the typical thing... so happens when i sit in his car, i can already smell the wierdness in the air, and the way he is acting around me and stuff, becuase it so happens that he works for the city's police department.anyways. he slowly and slowly tries to pull words out of my mouth by dialing my cell phone and tells me not to pick up. so that he can make me hear the voicemail on my own cell phone that the other guy left me... he doesn't know my password, it's a police way of tapping someone's VM. but i had deleted it prior to seeing this freak. anyways... the whole point is that is he allowed to do that? he didn't have a written consent. i mean i understand he is a cop and all that and he thinks he is all that, but i feel like i cant talk to anyone on my cell phone no more... how can i stop this... i feel like my privacy is invaded big time. it's not like i was gonna go do SOMETHING physical with my military friend... i was simply gonna go see him for an hour becuase he lives on military post, and so happens he was in town... HELP please... i need to stop this... he told me he can even track computer activity.... cant wait to hear from u guys.... bye.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 12:54pm

I'm not sure that I follow the story.

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Registered: 03-29-2005
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 1:08pm
the police guy has my phone # becuase we are calling each other and talking and stuff... but i didn't see the military friend, i left him hanging becuase the police guy called me to see me... that's why... other than that... he doesn't have my pin number to my phone to access my VM, but i am assuming it's a POLICE way of checking or tapping someone's VM.
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Registered: 12-03-2003
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 1:38pm
Your story sounds a little freaky. I am not surprise as to why you are so weird out. This dude totally abused his police power and invaded your privacy. He has tapped your phone in order to know what's going on and stuff. You should report him. I don't know how I will feel if I a guy I am seeing invades my privacy like that. He might be some control freak who doesn't want you to even hang with any mail friend. This story and your new guy sounds wierd. I really, really hope you got piss at him when he did that because if he has done this so early into your relationship, chances are he's not going to stop when things get serious between you two.
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Registered: 03-29-2005
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 1:43pm
problem is ... if i report him... he might do things even MORE freaky to threaten my family or my own life... i dunno... =*(
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Sat, 11-12-2005 - 5:08pm

He can't do that.

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Registered: 08-09-2004
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 10:33pm
For several years, I worked for a cellular phone company. There is no special "police code" or any way for someone to dial in to retrieve your voice mail. The only thing that the police could do is contact the switch of your wireless provider to have voice mail messages retrieved, and that is only if they have a court order and if the messages are still in the system.
This guy is a freak who has either watched you entering your PIN, guessed your PIN or spent way too much time trying number combinations to guess your PIN.
In any case, I would stay away from this guy. He is possessive and jealous and if he is behaving this way after such a short time, just imagine what he would be like after 6 months or a year.
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 9:23am
I honestly hope you aren't considering seeing this guy again.
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Registered: 05-03-2005
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 11:46am

What he did is absolutely NOT allowed and if you report him, he could even be dismissed. Don't worry about having evidence. The authorities have ways of tracing the 'tapping' process. He must have a code in order to retrieve your messages. They trace the code.

He abused the power given to him through the state - an abuse that in my opinion absolutely constitutes an invasion of privacy. You not only need to report him but get far, far away from him. That's scary, stalkerish behaviour.

Be thankful you discovered this frightening side of his behaviour early on.

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Registered: 02-27-2005
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 3:50pm
First of all, as much as a pain in the neck it is, I would change your phone #. If you are really freaked out about this guy (which I don't blame you) it will be well worth the hassel in the end, get it changed. When/if you do, of course get a different pin#, something as far away as he'd ever even guess. I've had to do this, and it sucked letting all my family and friends, credit cards, etc. know my # but I am thankful I did. Even if he is not contacting you, he is obviously checking your voicemails. And there is a way to do it. I have a girl who is somewhat of a friend, she has some kind of code she can call from her phone, enter a cell phone number and enter 1234 and there comes how many voicemails they have and she will listen to them! I have no idea how she figured this out, I really don't care to know, but it can and does happen. Please change your number and your pin.
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Registered: 02-05-2005
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 5:35pm

if i were you i would lock my doors, windows, change my phone numbers and tell him that you dont want to be in a relationship with him because you are not ready.

He does sound abusive, controling, and downright abusive of his employment authority.

he may even have your puter tapped and be able to read these posts. after all he has access to all the fun police tech stuff. If he can track your phone he can track your puter and your car...um..get your car to a garage and have them do a mirror under the car check for any tracking devices.

I don't mean to scare you...i am just forwarning you to be safe and use your brain not your heart.

God Bless.