Phone Time? (m)
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|Tue, 05-13-2003 - 11:26pm|
is it that so many of them have issues w/ the
telephone? And I'm not just talking about what a
lot of girls wonder about: "why does a guy say he'll
call and then he doesn't?" ... that's not my situation.
Why are *so* many guys at this age seemingly "terrified"
of talking on the phone?? My guy friends DESPISE talking
on the phone and when I ask them why, they just say, "I
dunno... I just don't like it. It's easier to talk online
or something." Most of my friends *are* guys and my roommate
and I have even realized that even when you call a friend
to get back to you about something (be it a phone #, etc)
they typically don't do it in the same time fashion as a girl
typically would (i.e. the guy will call in a few days whereas
the girl typically calls back w/in a few hrs).
I can understand guys not wanting to talk for *hrs* on the
phone. Quite often, I don't even enjoy talking on the phone
for a long amt of time. I'd rather relate to ppl face to face.
That's my preference. However, there *are* situations where it
is kind of imperitive to use the phone... i.e. if you're trying
to get in touch w/ someone who does not live w/ or near you
and does not go to your school or work at your place of
I was just curious as to if any guys - college age (or any age I
guess) - would have a better explanation why the phone seems to
pose such a threat for so many guys at this age. Like I said, we've
seen it w/ guy friends (friends and nothing more) and then there
are other situations like I'm in right now: I met a guy 2 wks ago.
He is from my best friend's (my roommate) hometown and has been one
of her best friends since childhood (so he's not a skeevy, random
guy) and we got along great. Had an instant connection, great spark,
obviously both attracted to each other on what we saw on the outside
and got to know on the inside. He is EXTREMELY shy. We were supp to
see e/o again after we'd met and hung out, but that ended up not wkg
out b/c the thing we were going to go to ended up getting cancelled
and then my friends went to a diff place than he and his friends,
blah blah blah. When we *had* hung out, my friend and I had to leave
suddenly so we didn't have an op to exchange #s even though we'd
both made it clear we did enjoy spending time together and would like
to hang out again & get to know e/o better. After I heard that he had
been talking about how much fun he had w/ me and how he was interested
in knowing me better, I took the initiative, got his # from a mutual
friend and gave him a call exactly a week later. I got his voicemail
and left him a msg. He still hasn't called back. I figured that I can
take a hint and that he's not as interested as he said he was.. that
or he's just even more shy than I thought. I come to find out from
other mutual friends who were asking him about me that he still is
very interested and pleased w/ me. So I'm wondering... why not just
call me back already?! He knows I might be in his town again in a
few days and he has said he would like to see me.
I know of 2 or 3 other mutual friends we share that have tried to
reach him for the past week (not about he and I, for their own
reasons) and he hasn't called them back either.
If you're never going to use your cell, why have one?? lol
Sorry... sorta turned into a rant but if any guys can explain
why the phone makes them so repulsed, fill me in! :op