The pickup artist

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Registered: 11-28-1999
The pickup artist
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Thu, 07-24-2014 - 1:22pm

I just have to laugh at the attempt at dating that I experienced a couple of weeks ago--I guess I should remind myself that at least I'm attractive to some people, but why is it never the ones that you want?  I go to outdoor salsa dancing on Monday nights--it's a really fun things, all ages and people from the neighborhood and I know a lot of people there.  Last week it rained so they had to do it indoors in an auditorium and the crowd was definitely less, so this one guy kept asking me to dance--he was Cuban but he did speak English (better than my Spanish) and I think he was probably in his 60's and since I'm turning 57 soon, the age wasn't a problem, but I was just not attracted to him at all.  But I will dance with anyone--there was even a kid in braces who asked me to dance.  lol  So we are standing along the side and suddenly the guy says to me "I'm single."  Wow!  My life is made.  I don't really mean to make fun of him but it just struck me so funny that we were not even having a conversation at that moment and he just blurted it out.  I don't think I even said "me too."

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 07-24-2014 - 2:49pm

In Shock are we? 

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 07-26-2014 - 11:41am

It's hard to tell what's going on inside someones head.  I think some people have perception problems, as in, he may have been misinterpreting your friendliness for interest of some sort.  I mean, stiil, it was an odd thing to say but maybe he felt a connection and was just going for it.  

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 07-26-2014 - 1:48pm

I don't really blame the guy--you know, nothing ventured, nothing gained, and there was a slight language barrier there.  I think from his POV, maybe he should have tried to ascertain whether I went to this dance regularly (which I do) and maybe tried getting to know me first, but then again, it wouldn't have helped cause I am not attracted at all!  I guess he was just trying to feel out whether his declaration would prompt any interest.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 07-26-2014 - 5:26pm
I was out Thursday (alone again- I've given up on friends sticking to plans) and I really didn't feel like talking to anyone. I sat at the bar, and a guy came and sat two chairs over. I kept my back to him since I didn't feel like talking. Then I hear. "Hey, you need another drink sweetheart" (or something like that). I ignored him at first, but he repeated it until I answered. I told him I was good for awhile. He did end up buying my second drink (my tab was $2!), but I think he was buying lots of drinks. I think some guys just don't have a filter between their head and their mouth, so whatever they're thinking just comes out.