Pictures of his kids....what???

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Pictures of his kids....what???
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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 1:20pm

My newest annoyance with OLD...men who get way too personal waaaay too fast. He asked for my phone number really quickly, but whatever, I gave it to him because it's better than those guys who never want to move beyond email or disappear after the first few email exchanges.

He called me last night, but I was out and didn't hear my phone. So he left a message. While he gets HUGE points for calling instead of texting, he did call me from a bar in New Orleans (what??). This morning he texted me and I explained that I'd be available tonight to talk, but that I couldn't text during work (a slight lie...he was just irritating me by this point).

His response to that? He texted me a picture of his 3 kids. So now I am really irritated. Not only did he ignore my message that I can't text at work, why would he think I'd want to see this picture when we just started communicating? Oh and he also said that he can't talk tonight, but he wants to "flirt" by text. Gag :smileytongue:

Am I being too sensitive? Sometimes I wonder if I let these little things annoy me too much. I mean, who's perfect, right? What would you do?

On a brighter note, I met a guy last night who looks and sounds like Matthew Mcconaughey (face only, not the body, but I'm still a sucker for a southern accent and a cute smile). It still remains to be seen whether he reciprocates my interest, but at least it gives me some hope that my dating life is not confined to a computer screen and wierd text messages. lol

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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 1:27pm

I'm with you--why would I care about seeing pics of the guy's kids?  Plus I always consider my own kids' privacy.  And I couldn't be bothered to flirt by text or really to flirt a lot before I met the person--sometimes you think you'll like them and the when you meet, it's disappointing and then you've already said those flirty things.  So I try not to say too much that's romantic or sexy before meeting.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 1:59pm

The thing that jumps out at me is the picture of the three kids. That's just odd. It would be like sending him a picture of your pet completely out of the blue without his even inquiring about it. Weird.

Good luck with the look-a-like!

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 6:15pm
That would annoy me too. Was there a message with it? Or was it just the kids? I'd probably have responded (after work) "I think you sent me this picture by accident" so he knows you think it's out of place!
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Registered: 05-10-2012
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 4:16pm

I am so immature....I liked the idea of sending him a picture of your pet(s)     Of course, it could be your car too.  

 

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 5:34pm
The message with it said "My Life." And what a fabulous idea to text him that I think he sent it by mistake, I wish I'd seen this when you posted it yesterday, because I so would have done that! Ah well, I never responded and the guy seems to have gone away without me having to tell him to go away. At least he's shown more class than some of the other OLD losers I've connected with lately.
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 5:39pm
Maybe I should have sent him a picture of my cat, or my lunch, or the bunion on my toe with a message: "Since we're getting personal." LOL Man, I wish I could think of this stuff on the fly.
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 5:52pm

I didn't know about the 'My Life' tag.   Not that it's overly creepy but he did send a pretty big message with the tag.

He was letting you know, in no uncertain terms, that those kids (and it seems that LIFE) is his end all and be all.  

You are secondary (possibly less).    

I just have red flags waving....He may have been interested in you but that past life of his would have ruled your world.  Unfairly so.   

He isn't ready for a new r/s.  

He may not be a total dbag but  he is a Dbag anyway.  Damn PMS.

 

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Fri, 09-21-2012 - 6:01pm
Ugh, I didn't even think of that, but I totally agree. I attract these kind of guys. Even online :smileysad:
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 7:40pm

I like heather's response, but I also have to say that when I started OLD and my first guy turned out to be a scammer--well when we first started emailing he sent me a bunch of pics of "himself"--who knows who that person was and then some pics of him w/ his kids--to convince me that he was a normal family man I suppose.  Now that I'm thinking about it, that creep has a pic of me too.  EW!