A plan but will it work!
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A plan but will it work!
| Sat, 10-15-2005 - 12:10am |
I woke up last year a 30 y/o single woman who spent most of her youth in 2 long term relationships (6 yrs) I started dating when I was 22. I had few rebound guys in between.
I looked at my dating life and realized I never kissed a guy outside a relationship context. let alone getting intimate with someone.
I feel this whole inexperience thing is making me weak and forcing me to stick around when I know there is no hope in the relationship! so I kind of came to the conclusion that I need to be out with more guys get intimate for a couple of weeks and drop it and move on to the next one. I feel this will make me stronger when/if I m in a relationship because I will realize that simply because I m physically attracted to the person means nothing else.
I ve been wih a really bad guy for 4 yrs then we broke up (he wanted) and so I moved on to meet my next guy 2 yrs later he was the exact opposite v. caring and respectful and sweet guy. But still things did not work he got into depression and had spending issues... and we broke up ( I wanted it for so long but never dared to take the decision so I waited for him to decide!!)
so I would like to know if you guys agree that being experienced kind of make u capable of moving on easier if things did not work.
The only problem is to find this many guys that are decent enough to be with.
I looked at my dating life and realized I never kissed a guy outside a relationship context. let alone getting intimate with someone.
I feel this whole inexperience thing is making me weak and forcing me to stick around when I know there is no hope in the relationship! so I kind of came to the conclusion that I need to be out with more guys get intimate for a couple of weeks and drop it and move on to the next one. I feel this will make me stronger when/if I m in a relationship because I will realize that simply because I m physically attracted to the person means nothing else.
I ve been wih a really bad guy for 4 yrs then we broke up (he wanted) and so I moved on to meet my next guy 2 yrs later he was the exact opposite v. caring and respectful and sweet guy. But still things did not work he got into depression and had spending issues... and we broke up ( I wanted it for so long but never dared to take the decision so I waited for him to decide!!)
so I would like to know if you guys agree that being experienced kind of make u capable of moving on easier if things did not work.
The only problem is to find this many guys that are decent enough to be with.

juliara2003,
>I need to be out with more guys get intimate
>for a couple of weeks and drop it and move on
>to the next one.
What you are planning to do is practice breaking up after sex. I'm sure there are many men who would be happy to oblige.
>I feel this will make me stronger when/if I m
>in a relationship because I will realize that
>simply because I m physically attracted to the
>person means nothing else.
I think the way to overcome this is to do the exact opposite of what you are suggesting. Don't get intimate until you feel the attraction is more than just physical.
I think that what you're searching for is the ability to end a relationship when you know it's not working, and I think simply listening to your gut will do that.
I would like to know if you guys agree that being experienced kind of make u capable of moving on easier if things did not work.
I can whole-heartedly say being "experienced" with sleeping with men and dropping them does NOT make it easier to move on after a relationship!
Unfortunately that will probably just create unhealthy habits to sex! :(