Please Help

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Please Help
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 1:36am

my boyfriend and i broke up about a month ago after about a three year relationship. i'm young, 21, but i can't get rid of this feeling that i'm never going to find anyone else. it's to the point where it's making me depressed and not even want to go out. i've never worried about this before but as soon as the breakup happened that's all that seems to be on my mind. i don't want to go back to my ex because it was a bad relationship for my self esteem but i'm scared that if i keep thinking that i'm never going to find anyone i will go back to him, or guys like him. my thoughts seem to be bringing me down horribly. do you think it might stop once i get over my breakup or is there any advice on how i can stop thinking this way? thanks for any advice.

Alana

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 12:02pm

Do you really think that at 21, you'll never, ever find anyone else that you care about?

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 1:45pm

It will take more time than a month to get through the hurt and lonliness of your break-up. The only advice I can offer you is, try to busy yourself. Catch up on reading, plan activities with friends and family, take up a new hobby. Don't give yourself the opportunity to be sitting at home on a weekend evening, sulking, and contemplating calling your ex simply because you are lonely. Too many of those kinds of nights and you may end up giving in.

You'll be okay, Alana : ) In the meantime, good luck!