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|Mon, 10-27-2003 - 2:53pm|
Anyway, 2 months passed with no contact whatsoever. I just recently started dating a new guy. And then, a week ago, my ex & I had our first contact. We both work for the same company, only in different offices. My boss sent me to his office for the morning to cover for another girl in a meeting. My ex came up to me and said hello & asked me how I was doing. Then, as he was leaving, he leaned down and whispered in my ear that I looked really nice. Then, last week, we both had training together with about 20 other people. We had assigned seats, and he sat 2 seats away from me. I couldn't take my eyes off him, and realized all over again how much in love with him I still am.
I decided to call him that night just to say hi. He was very glad I had called. He told me that right before I called, he had been talking to his cousin about how much he missed me. And he had just told a co-worker that day that he was going to call me as soon as our training was over that week. We had an amazing conversation that night - talked for over 2 hours. He told me over & over how much he had missed me. He said that seeing me that day at the office when I was filling in for that girl really messed him up. He said he thought about me the whole weekend, and dreamed about me at night. He told me there's "just something about me he can't resist." He told me he'd call me again after our training was over.
When he called again, he asked me to meet him for drinks, which I did. We had the MOST AMAZING time together. It was just like when we first fell in love. He told me how beautiful I looked, and again how much he missed me. He had found out I was seeing someone else, and he admitted that news "really stung." He said it made him sick thinking of me with someone else. Then he told me he was seeing someone too - a girl who ALSO works for our company, except in another city an hour away. She's divorced and has a 4 year old son. This really hurt me, too. I asked him how things were going with her, and he said really good at first, but then some things he's discovered aren't quite what he first thought. He said that "Cupid has put down his bow now." Whatever that means. Then he told me that I "ruined him as far as sex goes" because she is nowhere near as good as me in bed. That made me happy to hear, at least. Then he invited me out on Halloween, because his girlfriend will be taking her son trick-or-treating that night. I agreed. He wants to continue talking, too. I want him back so bad. He said things "just have to run their course." He told me he's afraid to jump right back into things without knowing if our problems have been resolved or not.
My question to you guys is, do you think we have a good chance of getting back together? Are these things I described good signs? If it were you, what would you say my chances are of him getting back with me versus dating someone who lives an hour away and who has been divorced and has a kid (things he said he's not that crazy about)? Should I stay with the guy I'm dating now, or dump him? Would it bring him back to me quicker seeing me with another guy, or dumping a guy and making it clear how much I want to get back with him? Which is more effective? Sorry for all the questions! I would greatly appreciate your advice - thank you!