please help out this noob

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Registered: 02-13-2012
please help out this noob
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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 10:32pm
Hi all, I'm a guy hoping to get some female perspectives :)
There was this really hot professional girl at my workplace (we work in different roles in different depts in a huge company so it might as well be two different companies in the same campus) who was sharing some stares with me.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 9:30am

Hey there, babylosik. Welcome to the board.

I'm going to copy and paste a portion of his post: "so I decided to go for it during my last visit and ask her to have lunch with me during the week. Her reaction? Stunned and then "I have a bf". I haven't seen her since but I hope it doesn't become like the first girl who stiffed up and avoided me. I'm trying to draw some lessons, should I have gotten to know them better and ask if they were available first before asking them out? I don't mind getting rejected but I wish I could have done it so that things won't be awkward afterwards, if that's possible."

If I read correctly, he's asking for advice on how to get the point across without it being too awkward. I think that's a perfect solution, but everyone is different.

I'm a pretty confident woman, and am drawn to very confident men. If a guy gave me his number, expressed interest and that sentiment was mutual, I'd have no qualms about calling him. It's not a marriage proposal. It's an open invitation to grab a friendly drink.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 11:50am

Well said CFK, and ditto on the welcome, Baby.

A tiny little Mexican man - not more than 5' - handled it perfectly Friday when I was in the store and he was helping me find something. I'm easily 12-15 yrs older than him, and because of the shoes I was wearing, a foot taller.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 1:50pm

Awww...I like tiny little Mexican men.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 8:46pm

Hola y gracias, Senorita.

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