please help out this noob

Hey there, babylosik. Welcome to the board.

I'm going to copy and paste a portion of his post: "so I decided to go for it during my last visit and ask her to have lunch with me during the week. Her reaction? Stunned and then "I have a bf". I haven't seen her since but I hope it doesn't become like the first girl who stiffed up and avoided me. I'm trying to draw some lessons, should I have gotten to know them better and ask if they were available first before asking them out? I don't mind getting rejected but I wish I could have done it so that things won't be awkward afterwards, if that's possible."

If I read correctly, he's asking for advice on how to get the point across without it being too awkward. I think that's a perfect solution, but everyone is different.

I'm a pretty confident woman, and am drawn to very confident men. If a guy gave me his number, expressed interest and that sentiment was mutual, I'd have no qualms about calling him. It's not a marriage proposal. It's an open invitation to grab a friendly drink.