Possible cheater?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Possible cheater?
Fri, 10-18-2013 - 1:34pm

If you guys remember how I went to the beach house this summer, was invited by a guy only to be surprised that he was there with his GF!  Well I was scrolling on POF this week, which I never do, but maybe because my son was watching the Catfish show in the next room & they were talking about it--so guess who I see on there, but that same guy!  He was online that day.  I had just seen both of 2 weeks ago at a dance and the GF was telling me how they were practically living together.  She stays at his house 6 nights a week so I don't know how he'd even have time to meet someone else.  Although he is a real estate broker so that's a job where you could have a lot of free time during the day.  I'm not close friends with this woman so I'm not going to mention it to her.  Oh and he's not even divorced yet.  

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 10-18-2013 - 2:09pm

What a d-uche.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 10-18-2013 - 3:56pm

Oh; what comes to mind is that he is keeping his options open.. You know when the next best thing comes along.....

He sounds like a leche or an opportunist and thus why he wanted to hook up with you.. He thought maybe you as a laywer had money or something or something you could offer him more than his current stbxw or gfriend.

Yep. he is that type.. waiting for the next best thing which we know doesnt happen so he will continue on his quest as the guy who keeps cheating and cheating and never getting it right.. I feel sorry for his exwife. as his ego is bigger than Mt. Everest..

the endless searching will get him winding up old and  alone and most likely broke and sad and all of that...

Oh; well. not your problem.....................NEXT   LOL

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 10-18-2013 - 4:20pm

Funny--current GF is also a lawyer and I'm sure she makes way more money than I do since she works for the gov't.  I'm sure she tells him how much money she has since a recurring theme (that she has told me) is how she was the primary wage earner in her marriage, scrimped & saved for retirement and now has to give 1/2 to her STBX.  She also told me that BF is annoyed that she has to give away so much money, even though the several lawyers she consulted all said the same thing--long term marriage, he gets half.  Not that it's any of the guy's business.  I figured they were good for each other since they both could share the misery of their divorce situations.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 10-18-2013 - 7:34pm

I remember him. Sounds like he's trolling for some legs to shave. lol

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 10-18-2013 - 9:01pm

I can't believe you remembered that!  I had forgotten it myself.  If you saw him, you'd really not believe that he could even get a lot of women.  He's not terrible looking by any means, but he's not a model, just kind of an average middle aged guy.  But they are all delusional I think.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 10-19-2013 - 1:05pm
Probably still looking for the third for the threesome!
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 10-19-2013 - 1:49pm

Actually meaningless.  The cookies that POF has will show a person "online"  when they are  actually reading MNBC!   Many people are mislead by the fact that the internet will have a person online meaning they are online but not necessarily at that site.


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 10-19-2013 - 11:54pm

I suppose it's possible but I did see him on 2 different OLD sites.  I haven't seen him on those sites in quite a while.  What would be the purpose of showing that someone was "online today" when they weren't?  I know that I hardly ever go on POF but since I did recently, they must somehow put my picture to the top because recently I have gotten some of those stupid "so & so wants to meet you" greetings.  When I wasn't on there for a long time, they stopped.

I don't know, when you add that up with his failure to tell women that he has a GF, it looks a little suspicious to me.

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Sun, 10-20-2013 - 9:49am
Xxxs: I didn't know that. Thanks for sharing.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 10-20-2013 - 10:58am

I will second what FG said which I think was a simple "D-uche".  That poor woman.  Do you think it's an open relationship and she knows about the online ads?