The power of no

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Registered: 07-16-2001
The power of no
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 11:37pm
I don't know if anyone else watches How I Met Your Mother, but it's one of my favorite shows. I was watching an old episode the other day. It was all about Barney, the womanizer, trying to sleep with a woman (Jennifer Lopez) whose philosophy was not to have sex until the 17th date. She told men no regardless of the question (Do you want coffee?) or what her answer was. Barney chased her shamelessly until he had a change of heart and he ended up rejecting her. At that point, she started begging him to want her. Basically, they each only wanted what they couldn't have.

I see this a lot with guys. My FWB has resurfaced again. We went to a different karaoke place Wednesday and he was there. I got home and he texted me asking to come over. I told him no, and asked him if he realized it had been two months. He said he'd been busy w/ his kids and that now it was my "turn" to text him first. Tonight, he texts me again and I told him no again bc I was tired. He tried to convince me, but I really wasn't up to it.

He's just the most recent example in my life of a guy trying harder when I've told him no. The thing is, I'm not trying to be a challenge. If I say no, I'm just not that interested! But it seems to make guys (and I imagine women too) work a little harder. It's like the things that come easy to us don't seem as valuable at first. But really, the ones that come easy should be the ones we want.


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Registered: 09-12-2005
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 5:07pm
juliasuk wrote:

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 11:59am

Julia, you are a sweetheart!

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 12:15pm

Thank you guys.. and yes I agree if I had something going for me in life it might make life more bearable.

I guess I either made bad choices and karma is now kicking me in the butt.

I mean look at my life.. Nowhere to live,no man and no job and my health aint too good either. Sometimes I dont know why I get up or wake up in the morning..

I will hang in cause nothing else to do....