PROMIScuity, double standard??
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PROMIScuity, double standard??
| Sun, 07-08-2007 - 3:36pm |
Why is it wrong if a female has been with at least more than their puppy love, first love, and third partner in life and ok if a guy on the other hand, is been with at least 5 physical intimite partners??? Isn't this the twenty-seventh century??? Isn't it wrong to say a female is a "slut" or "has been around town" when society ignores the fact that guys are just as bad? So what do U think? What are your personal beliefs on DIS isshoe?

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I think there is still a double standard, but is has been better. My own approach is that it is no one's business but your own who you sleep with. I don't discuss it with any boyfriends in a numbers approach. I might discuss sexual history as it affects our health and that we need to be tested and use condoms, but I never go into details or give numbers. You can get an std from only one partner. I never really ask a guy how many people he has been with.= because I know he'll want to know about me.
Most guys have told me the don't care, but I feel it is still my private business. A girl has to have some mystery. I never hold it against someone how many people they are with. I don't think about them as players or sluts. I just think some people are different and more open. Others might have issues with self esteem and acceptance so they feel a physical relationship can lead to that, etc. People grow out of this stage at some point. Even the biggest players I know are now getting married and are happy.
I do think women are trying to have sex like men, but this doesn't work for everyone. I know it's not right for me so I don't do it. I have tested the waters of NSA sex, but not everyone can be "Samantha Jones" in S&C.
Edited 7/10/2007 9:40 am ET by elwood1960
gal_ziggy10
Great analogy! So, other than health concern issues, would you say, you would never ask your current partner about the statistics of how many beds she's lied on?
Since I stated that this is the 2007th century, isn't double standard improved, and HOW has the expectations or norms of sexual behavior changed over the course of human evolution??
Just wanted to ask your opinion... Thx.
-eReader_k
elwood1960,
Could you elaborate on this earlier re: you stated
"Even if sex is used to feel needs of loneliness or whatever . .issues not related to sex but of witch sex, drugs, alcohol, etc often get involved . . .it still does not make a woman a "w" . . it makes her lonely or whatever . .know what I mean? It is not a sexual issue. Men too . . .who has not felt an unhealthy desire for attention at some time, acted on or not."
Thx
-eReader_k007
Edited 7/10/2007 9:39 am ET by elwood1960
Definitely! Thanks 4 re:
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Yeah, and what really gets me if you go on the Ask Mr. Answer Man board the WOMEN on that board will berate other women for sleeping with too many men, or sleeping with men too soon. I think it's disgusting. Why shoudln't/can't a women sleep with whoever she darn well pleases.
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