PROMIScuity, double standard??

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Registered: 12-24-2006
PROMIScuity, double standard??
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Sun, 07-08-2007 - 3:36pm

Why is it wrong if a female has been with at least more than their puppy love, first love, and third partner in life and ok if a guy on the other hand, is been with at least 5 physical intimite partners??? Isn't this the twenty-seventh century??? Isn't it wrong to say a female is a "slut" or "has been around town" when society ignores the fact that guys are just as bad? So what do U think? What are your personal beliefs on DIS isshoe?

random iVillager, eReader_k007 "Life's a triOp. Tie your shoelAces"

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 5:06pm

>>Yeah, and what really gets me if you go on the Ask Mr. Answer Man board the WOMEN on that board will berate other women for sleeping with too many men, or sleeping with men too soon. I think it's disgusting.

Well, the too soon thing is so subjective it's ridiculous (and some of the time limits people put on it...personally I think are a little too long), but I don't think anyone (man or woman) should get TOO carried away....I don't think it's healthy for anyone to sleep with whomever they see. :)

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Registered: 12-24-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:02pm

pEsar_usa

although maturity IS overrated *MTV Quote* you on the other hand are just asking to be blocked as a potential cyber-stalker on iVillage. lol. So, the answer re: to YOUR thread would be no. I do not even know you and trying to pull that lame high-school pick-Up line is a little far fetched... and played oUt. Good luck on finding a less intelligent girl that will fall for that though. hehehe.

P.S.

thank you for clarifying the timeline.. at least you know that much! loll If you assume much of who is on iVillage, then you obviously under-mimed that this is a WOMEN'S Message Board and the childish remarks are not something we've all never heard before, so seriously just be yourself and try not to age discriminate in here. Take cares.

random iVillager, eReader_k007 "Life's a triOp. Tie your shoelAces"
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Registered: 12-24-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:12pm

"Yes I do see plenty of that as well, and generally I agree with those posts. However, I have definitely been involved in more than one discussion posted by women where the posters assumed that things of women that would never be assumed of men. While many women are desirous of relationships and unable to have sex without attributing love to it, I think many women are able to do this. The trick is knowing when and if you've crossed that boundary. The part that upsets me is the assumption that all women are this way or all women are another, etc. Same for men. Perhaps this is a different topic, but a def. pet peeve of mine."

Japdiv,

Well, let me make things crystal clear here...
1) I do NOT make assumptions.
No Penis = not a man; therefore I cannot speak or think under your behalf. Being a female is the only thing I've known and from observations of my father, brother, guy-friends, co-workers, teachers, classmates, neighbors, and or any male contacts would be the only best-bet things I would know about understanding your gender.

2) There are some women who have NSAS; the same reasons why women cheat, their partners leaves and vise VERSA (if a man does it-- don't think for one second that the girl won't, either)

Could you explain what the thin line of crossing love between hate for us in YOUR perspectives? I might not have double-checked my grammatical synthax errors in creating this message board, but I just wanted to start a topic about promiscuity and whY generically speaking, guys favor guys sleeping around, but when a mature- self sufficient, idependent, and a little liberal female does, she's frowned upon by society. I guess it might also be different since I am not a typical all-american caucasian and I get this kind of reaction especially when I am in filipino socials.. But, who knows? Thx for the re: though. Great point!

-eReader_k2007

random iVillager, eReader_k007 "Life's a triOp. Tie your shoelAces"
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Registered: 07-21-2007
Sat, 07-21-2007 - 7:30am
I think the world is really turning around, but not in a good way. Girls are shown in the media to be little minxes and they are celebrated for it. However, they are still considered sluts for behaving in such a way. Women are always called something negative if we behave like a man. If we are strong, opinionated, we are called a bitch. But we can't blame the men; it is us women who are upholding this false image of femininity. I think there is nothing wrong with a woman being promiscuous. I was at one time myself. I no longer am, but not because of any negative stereotypes, but because I respect myself and will no longer let men use me. The price for me was just too high.
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Registered: 07-21-2007
Sat, 07-21-2007 - 10:08pm
I dont understand why its still like that i mean i have a guy friend who sleeps with anyone and feels the need to brag it about but i have a girlfriend who does the same thing and still in the end shes slept with less guys then he has with girls but everyone calls her the whore.
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Registered: 07-22-2007
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 12:51am
I TOTALY AGREE WITH YOU, WE ARE IN the YR 2000, AND WHAT WORKS FOR MEN IN MY OPINION SURE WORKS FOR WOMEN. AS LONG AS YOU ARE DISCREET AND TAKE PRECAUTIONS IT SHOULD BE A OKAY !!!!!!!!!!!!!( REMEMBER SAFE SEX IS BETTER THEN NO SEX )
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 1:46am

>>AND WHAT WORKS FOR MEN IN MY OPINION SURE WORKS FOR WOMEN

No they don't. Women aren't men. The two sexes are built and wired differently.




Edited 7/22/2007 10:08 am ET by c2shiningc
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Registered: 04-10-2007
Mon, 07-23-2007 - 1:52am

It seems like judging someone's character based on how many people they have slept with or been intimate with is an irrelevant exercise. If I'm dating someone, I want to know: is he active with other people while he's with me? How is his sexual health? How well does he know his body/how comfortable is he exploring my body?

If the answers to these questions are compatible with my needs, it doesn't matter to me how many partners he's had along the way. I would hope that my potential mate would feel the same way.

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