Puzzled about a crush!?

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Registered: 01-28-2006
Puzzled about a crush!?
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Sat, 01-28-2006 - 2:11am

Hello everyone,
I would appreciate any input on my current situation that can be recieved. I have been friends with this girl for almost a year, and I really like her...She also really likes me, yet when we met we both had significant others, so nothing ever came about. Recently we both became single after 4 year relationships, and went on one date. Neither of us are really interested in the idea of getting into a serious relationship but maybe just having fun with one another and being friends and maybe a little more, but like I said nothing serious or long term. We both expressed how we feel and that we like one another, but once I brought up the idea of a not so serious relationship, the flirting and fun sort of died out...The flirting is starting to return which is great...but Im still wondering what to do next. I love the idea of natural flirting but I really like this girl...

My main question is...
...Is there anyway to salvage this mistake? I really like this girl a lot and I think I jumped the gun and spoke to soon, telling her exactly how much I liked her...Is there anyway to pickup where I left off before asking her into a relationship?

Thanks,
Any input appreciated once again,
Average Joe

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 10:34am
I think she pulled away because you told her you did not want a serious relatonship. Regardless if she just got out of a long term thing, she probably does not want a fling or to be thought of as one. Just tell her how you really feel and see where she stands. Sometimes telling a woman you want nothing serious with her, make her feel not so special. At least this is how I would feel in the situation.
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Sat, 01-28-2006 - 10:51am

I would have done the exact same thing.