QOTW: Plans

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QOTW: Plans
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Mon, 10-06-2003 - 2:39pm

What are your plans for your life in the next year? Over the next 5 years?


If you don't have a plan - why not?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 11:27pm
My focus will continue to be on finding someone to have a (hopefully) happy marriage and a family with. Friendship wise I continue to have the goal of simplifying, with little success - I don't need to have dozens of acquaintances and to be a social butterfly - ends up being too aggravating. I would also like to start to phase out of intense private law firm practice - find something a little more low key - but that will depend on whether there's a second income. In 5 years I would like to own property with a husband since of couse NYC rents are INSANE and since it costs basically 400k and up and up for a one bedroom apartment that doesn't seem reasonable to do. Spiritually I'd like to be more consistent as a Jew - go to services more often and find a place to pray that I can call home. So, while I have specific plans for relationships, job-wise is a little more difficult - if the economy improves I will feel i have more control/options/leverage but till then . ..
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Registered: 07-05-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 11:45pm
My plan is to finish writing a thesis towards a graduate level diploma. Once that's complete and I can finally graduate and hopefully find a job in the the field of my choice. The job I have right now is not emotionally fulfilling and the pay is lousy; however, it does allow me the flexibility to complete my thesis, which involves sacrificing a lot of time and mental energy. I also sacrificed financial stability when I decided to go back to school 4 yrs ago so I'm looking forward to getting my career off the ground.

jhoover

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Registered: 07-05-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 11:46pm
Hi Deena,

I hope you had any easy fast.

jhoover

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 8:09am

A year is easy.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 9:21am
Hi there!

Thanks so much - it was easier than other years but after 5 PM I basically was useless - we went until 7:40 and I held out till the bitter end ;-) - it was my 10th year in a row completing a fast (total was a little under 26 hours, no food or drink of any kind) - I found that my prayer was more meaningful at the end - clear head, etc - but I couldn't stand up anymore - or at least didn't try - conserved energy for the singing part!

It's funny - I'm usually so social and "nice" but when this woman I met during services asked me after if I wanted to grab a sandwich I had to say no not tonight - I was so exhausted and drained and spent - she wanted to talk about internet dating -all I wanted to do was get home and make my eggs and cheese, etc (usually I break with friends, this year since I am not serious with anyone I didn't go to my usual place - although my long term ex came over after for awhile - although I truly had a headache from the whole fasting thing, lol and he was tired too although he hadn't fasted so we behaved like a very cuddly cozy old married couple and crashed for about a half hour on my bed.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 1:28pm

Wow! Thats so cool...fasting was my last holiday and I've never done it. My ED (Executive Director) was fasting yesterday too...she isn't very "Jewish" (her words!) but she wants to be. And she was saying even tho her family is back east, she feels closer to them knowing they are all going thru the same process. Her process involves "atonement" - she explained it all to me and it make so much SENSE!


Anyway she was educating all of us and I thought it was really interesting. And thanks for sharing with us too :)


Go.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 2:12pm
for the next year: find a job in my field (still unemployed here). hold it for the probation (3 months). then move out of my parents' house (i no longer think of it as "my" house). the following 6 months or so will be a major adjustment for me.

5 years: i'll have paid off both my student loans and my car loan, so i'll actually be in the black instead of the red. -possibly move to another city within that period. it'll probably be about time to put a down payment on a condo.

10 years: hopefully by then i'll have started a family. hey, i'll be 41... that's not too old to have young children is it? i'm gonna be such an awesome dad...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 2:36pm
In the next year I'd just like to finally start and get settled in to my new job and adjust to a longer commute. I'd also like to make myself stop worrying about every little thing, so the coming year won't feel as stressful as the past year did. I'd also like to find a way to make myself be more social. I've slipped into an old habit of just spending weekends at home in front of the TV rather than seeking out things to do. I've become very bored and I know it's my fault, so in the next year I'd like to break out of that routine.

Five years is tougher. Since I'm already in my 30s and feel like I'm running out of time, I'd like to finally meet someone and settle down with him (while continuing to advance in my new career).

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_goroque
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 3:04pm
Yeah, I could see that!
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In reply to: cl_goroque
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 3:06pm
Oh! I can't wait to hear all the updates about exciting adventures into new social circles!!! I could probably use a little of that myself...but I'm busy working so I'll have to live vicariously thru you, do you mind? LOL.

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