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Registered: 04-22-2007
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Sun, 04-22-2007 - 10:16am

Hello all,

I'm new to the board, I thought this would be a good place to ask a quick question...

I'm a grad student living in a house, shared by 4 others (yes, we poor students have to live somewhere). It's been a while since I've been active in a dating scene and I was wondering, what is the etiquette for bringing someone home? I'd rather bring someone home than to spend the night at his house, not only because of safety issue but I just prefer having my things around (and not carry a massive bag to a date, etc.).

Thanks a lot!

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In reply to: honeybaby789
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 10:40am

I think that's something you need to talk to your roommates about.

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In reply to: honeybaby789
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 9:13pm

I'm not sure what you are asking as far a ettiquette goes? Do you mean, what do you say to him if he asks you back to his place? You just say, uh, how about my place instead.

Clear it with your flat mates though, as shy suggested. I too had two roommates who let their boyfriends basically live with us for free. I actually set one of the couples up. I worked second shift and he would stay there all day while my roommate was at work!? It was very uncomfortable. One day while she was gone I said: "Dude, start paying rent and utilities or get out." Surprisingly, he left. I bet she hated me. They stopped dating not long after that . . .

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Registered: 04-22-2007
In reply to: honeybaby789
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 5:02pm

Hello,

Thanks for your replies. I don't plan on having anyone live in my house long-term - it's already crowded enough. It's just that I've just started seeing someone and I'd prefer to hang out at my place rather than his. A couple of the housemates do bring their significant other to the house, and they do end up staying for extended periods of time, which does bug me... I guess one (rather optimistic) solution would be to finish this degree quickly and get a proper place of my own. :)

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In reply to: honeybaby789
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 6:42pm

I agree with the other posters about freeloading boyfriends. The last time I had roommates, both had boyfriends (so did I, but he lived alone so I always went to his place). Both boyfriends had keys and it wasn't uncommon for me to come home to one of them, even when my roommates weren't there. It was awful - I never felt truly comfortable in my own home.

So, proceed delicately with the roomies, but don't let that stop you from having the guy over. If you have your own room, or another room where you two can go to watch movies alone, etc., that allows your roomies some privacy.

AJ, enjoying life with C.