I am single by choice I suppose. I am admittedly picky and do not mind being alone. After two or three dates, if I am not feeling any chemistry, I call off the "relationship". Also, I have some intimacy issues that I need to work on.
I am not against the institution of marriage, however. I could see myself married, but I have a lot of personal work to do before I think I could contribute to a healthy relationship. If the right person came along, and I was at a really good point in my life, I could settle down. I also want to be absolutely financially secure before I get married. I want to know that I can do it all on my own.
You should be cited for asking such a loaded question ; )
Personally, I do not believe in marriage. I also don't believe that one person is going to guarantee anyone life long happiness. Most people believe that if a person is not in a relationship, they are unhappy.
I was just discussing this with my cousin who is in her fifities. I told her that I have no problems remaing single for the rest of my life. She then went to argue that maybe in my forties I will want a relationship with someone. I disagreed with her. I need a tremendous amount of personal space and I would not like a person always in my business no matter how kind they are.
I'm 33 and if someone told me that I would remain single for the rest of my life, I would not be devasted.
I have a close male friend who has only had two girlfriends in his entire life. He's 36 years old, attractive and has a good career. He never asks girls out. I know that he likes women, he just seems to like his freedom more.
Do you date at all? I guess it's hard to imagine that a person would prefer to be alone. I don't mind being alone so much now but I am the youngest sibling and don't have children. I sometimes worry about the quality of life when I'm in my late 60's and over. Do you ever think about that?
I don't date at all. I was involved with a guy though but he is such a complete loser. The last time I saw him was Valentines day 2006. It was just sex. We never went out on a real date(dinner, movies). He's 36 years old. I've known him for about 11 years and I met him when I was 21 or 22 at a nightclub. This was the time when I was just starting to go to clubs. I'm 33 yrs old.
Its finally over with him because of the fact he has no job and he just got out of jail.
"I'm 33 and if someone told me that I would remain single for the rest of my life, I would not be devasted.
Also, I don't want children."
This would devastate, at least a little bit. To each his own.
I just know that I'd never want to spend the rest of my life, single or alone and that I really do want to have a fmaily of my own someday. I do understanf tht some people don't want that however.
But the idea of just spending the rest of my life totally for me or totally with just me, makes me stomach turn.
Another reason that I will remain single for the rest of my life is because I don't like to compromise. I would not like someone to tell me where to live and how to spend my money. I would never relocate for anyone.
Eventually everyone is going to be alone one day. We all need to get on with our lives if anything happens to the other person.
I beleive that I don't have the emotional need to spend the rest of my life with someone. Sex is really not that important to me and I don't need it on a regular basis. I can be happy without it and I have had sex before and it really doesn't do anything for me.
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I am single by choice I suppose. I am admittedly picky and do not mind being alone. After two or three dates, if I am not feeling any chemistry, I call off the "relationship". Also, I have some intimacy issues that I need to work on.
I am not against the institution of marriage, however. I could see myself married, but I have a lot of personal work to do before I think I could contribute to a healthy relationship. If the right person came along, and I was at a really good point in my life, I could settle down. I also want to be absolutely financially secure before I get married. I want to know that I can do it all on my own.
You should be cited for asking such a loaded question ; )
Personally, I do not believe in marriage. I also don't believe that one person is going to guarantee anyone life long happiness. Most people believe that if a person is not in a relationship, they are unhappy.
I was just discussing this with my cousin who is in her fifities. I told her that I have no problems remaing single for the rest of my life. She then went to argue that maybe in my forties I will want a relationship with someone. I disagreed with her. I need a tremendous amount of personal space and I would not like a person always in my business no matter how kind they are.
I'm 33 and if someone told me that I would remain single for the rest of my life, I would not be devasted.
Also, I don't want children.
I have a close male friend who has only had two girlfriends in his entire life. He's 36 years old, attractive and has a good career. He never asks girls out. I know that he likes women, he just seems to like his freedom more.
Do you date at all? I guess it's hard to imagine that a person would prefer to be alone. I don't mind being alone so much now but I am the youngest sibling and don't have children. I sometimes worry about the quality of life when I'm in my late 60's and over. Do you ever think about that?
I don't date at all. I was involved with a guy though but he is such a complete loser. The last time I saw him was Valentines day 2006. It was just sex. We never went out on a real date(dinner, movies). He's 36 years old. I've known him for about 11 years and I met him when I was 21 or 22 at a nightclub. This was the time when I was just starting to go to clubs. I'm 33 yrs old.
Its finally over with him because of the fact he has no job and he just got out of jail.
Edited 11/28/2006 7:20 am ET by pastels952005
"I'm 33 and if someone told me that I would remain single for the rest of my life, I would not be devasted.
Also, I don't want children."
This would devastate, at least a little bit. To each his own.
I just know that I'd never want to spend the rest of my life, single or alone and that I really do want to have a fmaily of my own someday. I do understanf tht some people don't want that however.
But the idea of just spending the rest of my life totally for me or totally with just me, makes me stomach turn.
Me, too. I joke with some of my friends that I may get married around age 70. Maybe snag a man in his late 50's ; )
Seriously, I would imagine that from retirement age on, it could get a little lonely.
Another reason that I will remain single for the rest of my life is because I don't like to compromise. I would not like someone to tell me where to live and how to spend my money. I would never relocate for anyone.
Eventually everyone is going to be alone one day. We all need to get on with our lives if anything happens to the other person.
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