question about flirting

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Registered: 10-11-2005
question about flirting
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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 11:37am

Hello everyone,

Anyway, my name is Julia and I work for a large company outside of Philadelphia. My question is what do you think this guy wants at work. First of all I want to say I think he is a very nice person. Ok for the question. This guy does some work for us in our department. He works in another department (Maintenance). Anyway, when he is doing his job he is very nice and professional. Well, one time I was in the cafe and he was talking about football to someone else. I was in line in front of him and enjoy football as well. So I just said my 2 cents worth - LOL. Anyway after he found out I enjoy football and play some fun company football pools. I have seen him coming to my area more often. He has even e-mailed me out of the blue asking me who I like in this weeks football games. He is married and when he talks to me he does bring up his wife often. So he doesn't hide it at all. I really don't mind it but I'm just curious what other women think he is up too?

Also wondering if this same thing has happen to you, if so what happen? Thank you for listening :-)

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 12:01pm
Don't make more of it than it is. He's a guy talking to you about football. Unless his email was provocative or otherwise suggestive, you have no reason to think his behavior is less than honorable. Now, that said, if a married man is actually flirting with you and it's obvious he's going out of his way to do it, I'd suggest you stay as far away as possible.
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Registered: 08-13-2005
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 1:50pm

I had a similar situation- i worked in a building and a guy in another department kept flirting with me- prolonged eye contact, walking by my desk unnessecarily, laughing at my dumb jokes - basically I picked up on several cues that he liked me. But he was married. And talked about it, well not openly, but whenever other coworkers would ask him or bring up topics that involved his wife.
Anyway, I just ended up being nice to him but not too nice and understanding that while he was attracted to me he wasn't necessarily going to make a move or anything. I considered him a friendly coworker and just took it as innocent flirting.

I digress, in situations like those I would say just be nice but understand that it's flirting in a very innocent way. Unless he does something to make you think it's not-so-innocent, just enjoy the conversation and potential friendship there.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 9:51am

I guess your write, I just know what he wanted when he was married. I just thought it was weird...thank all. Everyone knows I do my fair share of flirting. Its fun :-)

Thank you!