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| Thu, 08-31-2006 - 11:19pm |
Hi. I have a question that everyone can relate to. I am a male in my early twenties. I have been with my girlfriend for a while. That’s is not the issue. I’ve noticed if I were to break up with me girlfriend tomorrow I could see how it would take a long time, even years, to start up a new relationship. The reason for this is it hard to find a good match for a relationship and its tricky meeting people. It’s a supply issue. I know that if any of my friends broke up with their girlfriends they would be single for quite a long while looking( possible > 1 year) . Is this normal; are we just lame, lol? In the movies and on TV they make it look easy. But, in reality I noticed that most people don’t get much choice or have much supply in who they get with. Is this how it is?

Johnstine,
I don't think the lack of supply of available people is the reason to stay with a boyfriend or girlfriend. It obviously stands to reason if more people broke up with their boyfriend and girlfriend when they were not compatible, that there would be more of an availability of people to date. I would really hate it if I found out that someone was staying with me because they thought if they left, they might not find any one better, they were too lazy to look for someone else or were too desperate and needy to ever consider being by themselves and staying single. Bottom line: you need to be with your girlfriend for the right reasons so if you're not happy with her, do her a favour and break up with her so she can find someone who sincerely loves her and wants to be with her. And if you're taking a survey, I think it's pretty lame.
Feisty
I think it's very normal. It really is hard to get into an actual relationship these days. The rules of dating have changed. And I'm out of the race! I've had enough. It's too frustrating, really. But I do understand where you're coming from. Just finding someone who wants to be with you is hard enough. Choice is another thing. You dont' want to have to settle, right? I, for one, have given up on settling. I'd much rather be alone!
Btw, forget about "in the movies"! There's NOTHING real about them. Even the "realistic" ones were made as if they were made on a lofty cloud.
i have been dating someone for a while now, and i think the same things sometimes. i am very very happy with him, but i just sometimes think how much of an investment i've put into him, and how, if we were to break up, i'd probably start putting a huge investment in finding another relationship, and it probably wouldn't happen again for quite some time.
it definitely isn't the movies, where all the interesting stuff happens in quick succession and then comes to a nice resolve - we live through a lot more!
Yes, it is very difficult to find someone who is compatible with you.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I think this is normal. People are far more reluctant these days to get involved with each other.
All I meet are guys that have been burnt before ie. had their feelings hurt before and who are terrified or totally turned off from getting into another relationship. It's been much hard then I thought to meet anyone open to it.