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| Thu, 07-06-2006 - 2:32pm |
Do you think there are some people who will never find someone? People who are just not in step with society and other people in terms of politics, religion, or social graces. Someone who just doesnt seem to really have a place with other people, even family?
Not a hermit or weirdo who is an outcast that hurts others but just someone who doesnt share hobbies or interests or beliefs with anyone else? In a universe of infinite possibilities, I beleieve it is possible.

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I'm sure there are people who will never find someone.
Anything is possible.
I also think some people will never find someone even when they have many interests, pleasant social graces, contacts, hobbies and interesting personalities.
I think love is a game of chance and you have little control over what kind of luck you will have. Even the most capable, attractive, intelligent person is not guaranteed love.
What a funny story, Stacey. But so true. I've met dozens of 'gross' and 'unappealing' people working in retail only to find someone married them!
And I've also seen some great catches, for whatever reason stay single and with little options. Love is indeed a mystery.
I think that if there is anyone who just simply won't find a mate, it's someone who either doesn't want to or is too inflexible to compromise, which is an essential part of a relationship.
I think that as long as you're open, there is someone out there.
<< On the other hand, I've known of well-groomed people who have everything going for them who for whatever reason, just don't find someone. >>
Absolutely. I think even Julia Roberts, she didn't get married for a long time. Many really nice and sexy movie stars never get married--like George Clooney.
When I think of someone like George Clooney not being married, I get the impression they are that way because they don't want to be.
>I feel that if a person really wants to find somebody they will.
Just curious. Do you also believe that when a person doesn't find anyone and ends up single by circumstance, that they didn't want it enough?
Basically, yes.
I feel that if a person wants something enough and is willing to do something about it, they will achieve it. Dating is just the same. If you really want to be with somebody, then get out there and get yourself noticed( in a good way that draws positive attention, not physical attention otherwise you'll be attracting all the guys who just wants a piece). Do things out of your comfort zone and stay out of the house.
If you would have asked me the same question a couple of years ago, I would have said the opposite. I was in my twenties and my friends and I were all in the same boat being single. We thought because we "had it together" that we had shot ourselves in the foot so to speak because we scared guys off. But then, all those friends started to date great guys and then get married. Even the ones who kept sabotaging their lives were finding husbands. So maybe it has to do with experience and a little to do with age, but once you see those people who you thought would never get married, get married, it changes your perspective A LOT.
So I really think it has to do partly to timing, partly to not being ready and partly the fact that you have not met the right guy/girl yet. It is just a matter of time.
And if you ask those who never did marry if they really wanted to deep down inside, you would probably be surprised at their answer. I would gather they would say no. But when is it too late? We have the rest of our lives, say about 80 years or so, right?
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