Question of Attitude

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Question of Attitude
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:38pm

So the guy I'm currently dating (for merely a few weeks) has a full plate that's about to topple. In the next three weeks, his stress levels will go into overdrive. If someone is this busy, I respond by giving the person as much personal space as possible, the idea is to ease the excessive burden by removing myself as a factor. This boy reciprocates with incessant phone calls, txt msgs, regular emails that contain his constant whereabouts and plans, keeping me deeply involved. Who's the nut in this situation? Being sensitive is one thing, being sensitive to my needs is a good thing, but keeping me in the loop about things I've no control over is plain selfish. Or am I the one who's being the insensitive, uncompassionate egoist? We're still getting to know one another, despite our chemistry, I don't feel ready to do the extreme plunging into consummate devotion just yet.

R

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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:44pm

I've had guys go a little overboard on the "checking in" before.

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 3:53pm

Thank goodness, he and I both are rather defiant communicators. thanks for the advice. i already told him how I feel and vise versa; hopefully, we'll work out the kinks in no time.

Cheers to exceedingly virile girlie-men, they are truly rare gems!




Edited 7/10/2007 4:04 pm ET by dumberu
Brat Princess