a question from a guy-need feedback

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a question from a guy-need feedback
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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 12:34pm

so what are women more comfortable with: if I ask them for their number or if I just give them my number?

if I just give them my number, are they less likely to call?

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 1:48pm

Absolutely give a woman your number. That way the woman has the option of getting in touch with you -- and believe me, she will, if she's interested -- but she isn't put in the position of giving out her number to someone she doesn't know very well. Giving her your number instead of requesting hers will show her that you're sensitive to the fact that some women don't feel safe giving out their numbers to strangers.

carriebgirl

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Registered: 06-01-2006
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 2:34pm
Depends on what kind of girl she is. If some guy gives me his phone number I wont call him. Not for any other reason than I'm a silly little girl who thinks if the guy wants to take me out he should call me up and ask me. It shows me that he risked the fear of rejection in order to have a chance, where giving me his number is more like the cowards way out. Most girls aren't going to say "no I wont take your phone number" they'll take it and just never call. Well.. most girls I know. Personally I say no because I wont call because they asked me to. That's just me though. If I were you I'd go for the phone number exchange. That way it puts it in her court without making you seem any sort of way. If she does have issues giving out her number she'll say "Well how about I take yours and call you, I don't like giving my phone number out" or she'll exchange and just wait for you to call. In which case... if you do exchange phone numbers, don't wait for her to call - call her first.
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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 2:55pm

I would also say that it depends on the girl, whether she will call you back. Personally for me, it makes me think he is either a coward or better yet lazy. Harsh? Maybe, but there is something sexy about a guy who can ask a girl out. It means he is not affriad to take risks and it also makes the girl feel like she is worth the risk of rejection. Like there is something special about her....

From my experiences though, guys who are not willing to take that extra risk by calling you himself is either not that into you or just lazy.

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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 4:34pm

Uh, what about the suggestion I made that you offer your card, but give her the option of giving you her number?

That way, you cover both bases.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-28-2006
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 5:28pm
isn't it enough risk that the guy came up to you in the first place, sounds like some of you are playing head games or something. if a girl gave me her number and I liked her I would call her, seems like some of you are stuck in the 1800s ;)
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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 5:40pm

Uh, what does that have to do with anything?

Do you want to actually increase the chances that you will get to talk to a woman you're interested in on the phone and ask her out, or do you want to be stubborn about how it "should" be?

Sheri

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 5:42pm

Hey - this is the way it works. Like it or not.

I would only give out my number to someone I REALLY wanted to talk to. Otherwise, I'll either give out a fake number or just tell him "no thanks." If he gives me HIS number, I MAY call him if I'm interested - or else I toss it in the nearest trash can.

Some guy walking up to me, doesn't know me, I don't know him, only that he "thinks I'm cute," probably won't get my phone number. That's way too anonymous. Not interested.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 7:05pm

I would absolutely prefer that a guy ask for my number.