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a question from a guy-need feedback
| Fri, 06-02-2006 - 12:34pm |
so what are women more comfortable with: if I ask them for their number or if I just give them my number?
if I just give them my number, are they less likely to call?

Absolutely give a woman your number. That way the woman has the option of getting in touch with you -- and believe me, she will, if she's interested -- but she isn't put in the position of giving out her number to someone she doesn't know very well. Giving her your number instead of requesting hers will show her that you're sensitive to the fact that some women don't feel safe giving out their numbers to strangers.
carriebgirl
I would also say that it depends on the girl, whether she will call you back. Personally for me, it makes me think he is either a coward or better yet lazy. Harsh? Maybe, but there is something sexy about a guy who can ask a girl out. It means he is not affriad to take risks and it also makes the girl feel like she is worth the risk of rejection. Like there is something special about her....
From my experiences though, guys who are not willing to take that extra risk by calling you himself is either not that into you or just lazy.
Uh, what about the suggestion I made that you offer your card, but give her the option of giving you her number?
That way, you cover both bases.
Sheri
Uh, what does that have to do with anything?
Do you want to actually increase the chances that you will get to talk to a woman you're interested in on the phone and ask her out, or do you want to be stubborn about how it "should" be?
Sheri
Hey - this is the way it works. Like it or not.
I would only give out my number to someone I REALLY wanted to talk to. Otherwise, I'll either give out a fake number or just tell him "no thanks." If he gives me HIS number, I MAY call him if I'm interested - or else I toss it in the nearest trash can.
Some guy walking up to me, doesn't know me, I don't know him, only that he "thinks I'm cute," probably won't get my phone number. That's way too anonymous. Not interested.
I would absolutely prefer that a guy ask for my number.