Question....dating and single girls

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Registered: 04-27-2007
Question....dating and single girls
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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 3:36pm

So...women always complain that men are not honest and are not true to them....I can understand why women feel that way, because guys cheat on them left and right to boost their self esteem, but why do women think that all men are alike........it makes it so hard to meet and break through the front that women have to get to know them that its like trying to ice skate on hot water....I guess its better to get it from the source since I believe the majority (im guessing) of the readers of these blogs are women, if not I apologize, but its better to get it from the source, than anyone else.....any suggestions.......all comments are greatly appreciated .....Thanks .....

Alex

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 6:50am

Hi Alex,

You're the kind of guy most women I know are trying to meet. Keep up the good work. As to the attractive woman you didn't ask to dance: if I were you, I would have done the same thing. What guy wants to walk up to a woman in front of everyone (especially the best looking woman there) be turned down, and have to walk ALL THE WAY back to his seat?

Let me tell you, when ever I have been out with an incredibly attractive woman friend, I am amazed at the hyper-attention she receives from men. She is so used to it that she has come to expect it, and in the case of one woman I know, it's almost a game to her. She knows every man is looking at her and she plays it to the hilt. This particular woman I know is also incredibly superficial. So, I'm just saying perhaps Miss Thing was beauty with no substance, which some men really wouldn't care about! LOL.

Anyway, whenever I have been out like that, I am COMPLETELY INVISIBLE standing next to her (that's why I don't go out with her anymore!). I'm a reasonably attractive woman, but not the head-turning type. I say ask a woman like me to dance!

As to women being burned by men and you having to pay the price: I know a woman who always says, "All men are liars and cheats. There are no good men out there" Guess what kind of men she always meets? So I think some women who have not dealt with their issues expect to meet men who will burn them, and they always do. I can truly say that I know there are plenty of decent men out there...most of them are married, it seems (I'm an "older" woman).

So, yeah, I think as another poster said, perhaps try other venues apart from the bar scene. I think bars can be fun, but not always the best place to meet lifetime partners.

All the best. --FG

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