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Sat, 03-17-2012 - 7:19am

I collect quotes, and saw this one today from Martha Beck (this is right in line with what I've been concentrating on this year):

To find a mate, don’t become someone you’re not. Dare to be more yourself.






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Sat, 03-17-2012 - 10:35am

I totally agree.

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Sat, 03-17-2012 - 11:00am

I completely agree!

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Sat, 03-17-2012 - 11:12am

I love Beck as I have read some of her books and articles.

I think the only time I really became my authentic self was when I was totally sep. and divorced in 2007... When I was married I had to sort of pretzel myself into what my ex wanted.. In 2008 I went on a working on myself from inside out journey and I started to live by the mantra.. This is who I am and I like me so take it or leave it.

Now people say that I am sort of full of myself but that is not it.. I am self confident and self assured that this is who I have become and I like myself.. I wont change ever for anyone or pretzel myself into something else ever again.. (hopefully)and I never pretend and make believe I am something I am not.. Not sure though if this comes with wisdom or age.. (ah another post)

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Sat, 03-17-2012 - 12:10pm
Florida, have you ever read any of Mae Wests quotes? I won't bore everyone with a long list of them, but if you ever have some time on your hands, Google it. I promise they'll bring a smile to your face!
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Sat, 03-17-2012 - 1:05pm

Hi Shy

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Sat, 03-17-2012 - 9:42pm

I think it might help if you didn't look at these guys like potential dates, so you couldn't make the first move,. but just like people you'd normally be friendly to.

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Sat, 03-17-2012 - 10:38pm
That's pretty much what I do. I'm just really conscious of leaving someone alone at the table, and since my girlfriend is usually off talking to guys more than not (and she's married) I feel like I need to stay and talk to my guy friend. If he had just left when he usually does, I probably would have at least talked to one of them. I'm going out tonight and he was NOT invited!
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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 11:30am

Doesn't your guy friend want to date?

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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 12:03pm
Oh no. He never talks to women, nor does he ever attempt to talk to women. He's not really interested in "dating" in the traditional sense. He's told us more than once that he doesn't like relationships and just wants to find a woman to be his "baby mama" so he can have kids. If I'm in the same situation next week, I will leave him alone. I mentioned to my girlfriend last night that the reason I don't get up and talk to guys is because she's always doing it, leaving him alone. Hopefully she got the hint, but I doubt it.
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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 3:03pm

Oh he sounds like a great catch!