r they all really the same? just venting
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r they all really the same? just venting
| Tue, 07-11-2006 - 2:51am |
So im 20 years old and i have a very active social life however i keep finding that all the guys i meet are the same! they all lie and are only after one thing and its not a relationship! yes i know guys my age usually arent looking to be "tied down" but i have been single for over a year and a half and even guys ive met who havent been in a relationship in a long time are still the same! im kind of over this dating scene where i end up finding someone i think is different and then he just breaks my heart! does it get any better!?!?!?lol yes i know someday i will meet "the one" but seriously i wish he would come around right now cuz im just about to give up on dating!

Lovebites619,
I'm 32 and apparently a lot of the men my age are swimming in the under 25's pool but when I was your age, I had the same experience as you that men wanted to play the field and not make a commitment. It is frustrating at times but if you can avoid the sharks and head towards the rainbow trouts, you should fare better. Dating certainly does get much better and easier as you get older. I find the older I get, the more men I meet want to get to know me as a person and prolong the physical side of the relationship.
Feisty
I think that at 20, a lot of women feel like it's time to find that guy and settle down.
"There are guys at that age who do want to settle down, but if you find one and end up married really young, you'll regret it later."
My brother was one of those guys.
>>It does get better. Then it will get worse again. Then it will get better again. Dating sure has its ups and downs. Sometimes I really long for what I had when I was in the 4-year relationship. But I know my time will come again.<<
So true. I know I get tired of those ups and downs. I currently seem to be going on a string of first and second dates and that's about it. I definitely long for what I had in my 5-year relationship. At least we know that long-term relationships are possible, and they will happen for us again.
At 31, I certainly have had plenty of ups and downs. I always thought I'd be married by 23, but I have to say I'm glad now that I wasn't. I am a very different person now than I was then, and I'm glad I had the time to really figure out who I was and what I wanted to become. Five years of that "becoming" was spent in a relationship that showed me how important it is to take the time to choose the right mate. I believe it is the #1 most important decision you will make in your life, and it's worth letting time show you the right choice.
AJ, enjoying life with C.