Random but oh so true

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Registered: 06-26-2007
Random but oh so true
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Sun, 07-22-2007 - 9:57pm
Its been a couple of years since I've been in a long term relationship. I've had a few short relationships since and periods of being alone. I hate being alone!! but I dont want to be with someone just so i'm not alone. Becaue i've done that and it totaly sucked. WHy in the hell can't I just enjoy being alone for a while and let things happen instead of always looking for them. Why do I always feel the need to be in a relationship. i dont feel that insecure. Sorry to whoever reads this but if you have a comment feel free i'm willing to listen...
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 10:54pm

Don't beat yourself up because you want to find someone. Everyone is wired differently. Be glad that you know what you want and are willing to put yourself out there. Not all people can do that . . .

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Registered: 12-24-2006
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 8:14pm

"Its been a couple of years since I've been in a long term relationship. I've had a few short relationships since and periods of being alone. I hate being alone!! but I dont want to be with someone just so i'm not alone. Becaue i've done that and it totaly sucked. WHy in the hell can't I just enjoy being alone for a while and let things happen instead of always looking for them. Why do I always feel the need to be in a relationship. i dont feel that insecure. Sorry to whoever reads this but if you have a comment feel free i'm willing to listen.."

dalerjrlover_36079

First of all... you should never apologize for being open about discussing your personal dilemmas here on the MB. You are NOT the only one.. I mean, look at the OTHER people whom actually feel somewhat insecure at times. Were not always the ideal human beings in this lonely world. And you know, I can relate to what you go through... But, I've realized and actually accepted the fact that with adulthood and independence of being a liberal woman at this 21st century, you have to stand strong, even if your the only one standing. I don't know how and why I've felt somewhat numb, I guess, at the fact that I have no husband, kids, etc²... But, it is a choice I make because I love myself. And you know, someone really smart once told me that you can't unconditionally love someone else, until you first learn to love yourself. :) Most people stay in very toxic, verbal, even physically abusive relationships just for the wrong reasons. I'm sure you've seen the Maury Povich shows, you'd realize, you might just be better of alone than being with someone whom acts like an anchor to your heart. No one deserves to be in that kind of relationship. Regardless, with an partner, friends, co-workers, and even family... Best of luck in finding blissful and respectful relationship?. Keep your head UP!

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