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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 10:32pm

Surefire Signs He's Not Interested


http://love.ivillage.com/snd/meetmarket/0,,askmen_9wjkljss,00.html?nlcid=ls%7C11-30-2006%7C


I especially like the last one on page 3.


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Registered: 09-27-2004
In reply to: cl_shywon
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 11:18pm
The ever so popular "Busy" excuse. It sounds like all of us have heard this one before several times in the dating world. Heck I've even used that one with the guys I wasn't interested in. I always tried to talk myself into believing that they actually were busy but I always knew deep down that they were just not that into me.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: cl_shywon
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 10:37am
I wonder how old the author is? How about just a straight forward, I'm sorry, I'm just not interested? I got the "I'm super busy" before too and it just gave me a glimmer of hope that when his life settled down, he'd come around. What, do they think we'll shrivel up and die if we hear the truth? I don't get it.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: cl_shywon
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 12:23pm
You'd think they would have learned by now that we are, in fact, adults and can handle it when they say they're just not into us. I prefer that, and the sooner the better, please.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cl_shywon
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 1:11pm

I think all the contributors on Askmen.com have an emotional age of about 19 (if that!), regardless of their chronological age.

I think it's embarrassing that Ivillage posts anything from that site.

Sheri

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Registered: 09-21-2006
In reply to: cl_shywon
Fri, 12-08-2006 - 10:26am
I agree with the rest of the posters. I think guys need to be more mature and speak their minds. If they aren't interested they need to let a girl know. I think some guys like the attention though. They like to keep girls hanging on so they feel that they have options. I don't think guys take our feelings into consideration. I guess it all depends on how you met the guy. If you are meeting guys in a bar, most of them are just looking for a quick hook up. I try not to worry and stick to the old fashion rules. I let guys call me and ask me out. In my opinion guys like to be the one pursuing. I really wish I could understanding the thinking behind some of the typical male behavior.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: cl_shywon
Fri, 12-08-2006 - 10:39am

Nothing bums me out more than when guys I'm into ask me about my "hot friend."

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: cl_shywon
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 6:56pm

Yes, it seems immature, BUT what do you do when you're not interested in a guy?

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Registered: 11-13-2006
In reply to: cl_shywon
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 11:41pm

I just talk to them like I would talk to a friend. And to avoid any confusion in case he thinks I do like him because I'm friendly, I say somewhere in a phone conversation (for ex) that you're a cool friend. I let them know somewhere in my conversation that I enjoy being single so that I can go out and meet guys at clubs.

I don't give then anything too direct but enough to let them know that I see them as just friends. I don't tell them how I think such and such other guy is really hot because I wouldn't want to hear that either.